stillfiguringthingsout
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Hi All,
Well I need your advice again. Things have been going well for my SO and I. I have learned to recognize when his wife/my metamour's behaviour gets to be too much for me, that I just stay away and ask him to come to my place, which he happily does.
If you read my previous posts, I think you'll see I've definitely improved, becoming more mature in how I handle my own jealousy and insecurities where she's concerned. I don't spend as much time there and things have been good.
This past weekend, I had been feeling quite ill and rather than cancel our regular plans of getting together, we went ahead and spent the weekend together, at his house.
He rarely gets the opportunity to 'take care of me' so he seemed quite happy to make me some soup, cover me with a blanket on the couch...all very loving things to help me feel better. And all the while, in the back ground, his wife would be saying comments like" wow, you don't move that fast when I'm sick" (which is a lie, he busts his ass for her daily, showing his love for her in very physical ways, ever. single. day.) then respond to his comment with " I know hon, I'm just teasing..." this went on all weekend. I didn't engage or comment or even react. But I was steaming inside.
He treats her like a queen, seriously, he really does.
And I was thinking about it this evening, when I was home, and wonder if she's jealous? Why else would she say those things? To make him feel guilty?
I'm not sure how to handle when she does this, which is quite often, she says a snide remark and then follow up with 'just kidding' or 'just teasing' and laugh.
I'd appreciate your input
Thanks
Well I need your advice again. Things have been going well for my SO and I. I have learned to recognize when his wife/my metamour's behaviour gets to be too much for me, that I just stay away and ask him to come to my place, which he happily does.
If you read my previous posts, I think you'll see I've definitely improved, becoming more mature in how I handle my own jealousy and insecurities where she's concerned. I don't spend as much time there and things have been good.
This past weekend, I had been feeling quite ill and rather than cancel our regular plans of getting together, we went ahead and spent the weekend together, at his house.
He rarely gets the opportunity to 'take care of me' so he seemed quite happy to make me some soup, cover me with a blanket on the couch...all very loving things to help me feel better. And all the while, in the back ground, his wife would be saying comments like" wow, you don't move that fast when I'm sick" (which is a lie, he busts his ass for her daily, showing his love for her in very physical ways, ever. single. day.) then respond to his comment with " I know hon, I'm just teasing..." this went on all weekend. I didn't engage or comment or even react. But I was steaming inside.
He treats her like a queen, seriously, he really does.
And I was thinking about it this evening, when I was home, and wonder if she's jealous? Why else would she say those things? To make him feel guilty?
I'm not sure how to handle when she does this, which is quite often, she says a snide remark and then follow up with 'just kidding' or 'just teasing' and laugh.
I'd appreciate your input
Thanks