That is always a hard situation. Don't be too hard on yourself, it happens to all of us. It also gave PN the chance to be the hero to your boy.
Derby rocks my world I must say. I don't talk about her much as we don't get to see each other often, but I have to say that I am a very fortunate woman to have such a woman love me. She is smart, giving, generous, kind, beautiful and fun loving. I just adore her. She was my hero last night. Thanks for coming to the rescue sweets. We all appreciate you
Aww thanks How is your boy this morning? I bet he's full of stories to tell his classmates about the blood. (well if he's anything like my boy anyway). I'm glad I could help.
One of the biggest gifts I ever got was from Mono about how he sees my body and sexuality. He told me when I met him, after a long haul of casual sex, swinging and dating many, many men, that I was a temple to him, that the privilege of being able to put his skin on mine was breathtaking and he was more than honoured. He said he was sad that I didn't treat myself with the same respect.
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That is what won my heart to Mono. It was enough to change my entire life to welcome him in it. I would do that for no other, unless they treat me better. The bar is VERY high now, unreachable, I think.
I was at Mono's house last night, my OH (other home). PN called me at about 7 and told me that the boy had cut his head having stood up and hit it on the cupboard door in the kitchen. He was bleeding all over and scared. PN wanted to know what he should do about a bandaid as they wouldn't stick to his hair. I suggested a compress and that he wear his touque to bed for the night to keep it on. I suggested that he talk to Derby as she is a nurse. When I got off the phone I texted Derby and she called PN. She told him to wake him up at 10 to see if he was okay and didn't have a concussion. She agreed that he shouldn't have a shower to wash blood off but should wait until morning and pat it off with a wet cloth.
Okay, Mono is taking the total honesty approach with this thread so as to really let everyone know what it is like as we go through this. So I will chime in.I'm going to try to be as honest as possible in sharing my thoughts because I believe this is a golden opportunity for others to share in the process
I'm glad he didn't require stitches. One of mine did. Their dad, instead of calling me, took them to daycare and asked what he should do. They told him to take him to the ER. He did. I think he was proud of himself that day. I, on the other hand, was livid! He didn't call me! Mom! I'm supposed to be there for that kind of thing!
Any way, give the boy a big hug & kiss, maybe a picture or two for future reference (so he can feel all cool again down the road, lol) and send him off to school so he can wow his friends with how totally cool he is, lol.
ha! the second paragraph is so true... he was all cool until he banged his funny bone on the table today and was yelling about there being blood. He was okay when he found that there was none, but kept the cry on for a bit, just for good measure.
I'm struggling with my NRE again. I am so excited I find it difficult to be interested in PN. I love him and know this will pass, but thought I would mention it.
I think it's because he doesn't participate in stuff and this is no different. He is, by nature, very self involved and doesn't notice anything that doesn't directly influence what will happen for him. He never has. I have had to tell him every step of the way what I think and feel so he can be empathetic. It's not that he is unfeeling, just not very good at reading people, and especially me.
With this situation I feel a disconnect because of who he is. I get fed up with always having to be on top of stuff to let him in on and when I have too much going on it slips from me. I am having a huge need to cocoon now that I have my room and I don't feel like keeping him on top of where I am at. I want him to do it... but he doesn't/can't/won't. I know I have to or we just won't stay connected.
Thanks breathesgirl we do a lot of that already. I wrote about it earlier I my blog. I think I am just fed up with the routine. He is a part of that. Even dates can become routine. I just want alone time in my room.
Mono, intend to wrap you in NRE tonight. I can let it alllllll out!
*rubbing hands together*
Ohhh goody goody I've been a good boy but also a bad boy, just so you know
not get out of control with my anger like that. I figured out with his help that I didn't like being cornered, didn't like being approached about stuff that I am uninterested in in the morning and that I really needed him to just empathize. :
must remember to write about how I feel about Mono's affair and where we are at now... feeling hurt again today in light of the fact that he has gone to his other families house and they don't acknowledge me.