ClosetPoly
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I would recommend against a threesome experience as their first time together in your case. I think I see where you're coming from ... you want to feel included, to feel loved by them as well, right? But think about how uncomfortable you currently feel in the middle of their NRE. And then multiply that by a million. It will be their first time together. Whether they intend it or not, they are going to be pretty darn focussed on each other. Do you really want to be there for that? I think being in the middle of that would set you back in your progress.
Let them have their first time together. Their first several times together. Then maybe see what a threesome possibility would look like.
Yupp, I am very much in the same line of thought. It'll be a while down the road before that happens, but I know I am make it better in my head, and I know it's just BS. If they've never had sex, what scale of uncomfortability will it even measure on to have ME there?? I know the reality of this, and I know that at some point, it will happen, when I'm ready to handle it. And I will. Right now I'm not, so I romanticize it, seeing how we can all get together and enjoy ourselves blah blah. Yes, at some point, that'd be really hot, but no, I don't see that happening their first time. Unless they both agree and very specifically ask for it. At which point I am fairly certain I will kindly decline.
Right now, I'm working on handling the emotional bond. They have an incredibly strong bond, which is growing bigger and better every day, and that's what I have to work on and come to terms with. I really don't mind seeing them kiss and cuddle anymore, and it gives me great comfort that I know my partner won't leave me, and her boyfriend is one of my closest friends. I couldn't have asked for a better foundation to work on this.