I am curious about an issues that my chronic over thinking mind has brought up.
Let me give as brief a description of my situation as i can:
I was abused as a child, physically and mentally by a parent and sexually by a family member.
I have had 2 marriages. My first a 12 year long to an abusive controlling husband. The second 6 years (4 married) to an abusive controlling wife, who I am currently divorcing.
I have been in my first poly relationship since february this year, and my partner is amazing. He has really changed my entire life and shown me what love should really be. He is so gentle, kind, patient, understanding etc. The total opposite of both my marriages. He knows everything in detail and to be honest i was amazed he still wanted to be with me after sharing it with him, I am not used to being with someone normal and loving. I swore I would never get into another serious relationship again, yeah...duh! But I met him, fell totally in love and still can't believe anyone can love me so much.
The subject I am curious about, and it is not a major concern i just over think things and have this need to have things sorted in my own mind, what ways are there to be more serious with my partner? As in what if at some point one of us, or both, want to make the relationship more serious? Marriage is not an option, my partner is married.
I am not necessarily asking for advice on a current situation I realise, more interested in the ways others show each other they are serious. (I hope this makes sense, I am slightly dyslexic and have fibromyalgia which causes me to confuse words and things so sometimes struggle to get things across in a way that makes sense to others.)
I realise that by asking myself this I must subconsciously WANT it to progress to something more serious, but hey that could be a very long winded post lol
Let me give as brief a description of my situation as i can:
I was abused as a child, physically and mentally by a parent and sexually by a family member.
I have had 2 marriages. My first a 12 year long to an abusive controlling husband. The second 6 years (4 married) to an abusive controlling wife, who I am currently divorcing.
I have been in my first poly relationship since february this year, and my partner is amazing. He has really changed my entire life and shown me what love should really be. He is so gentle, kind, patient, understanding etc. The total opposite of both my marriages. He knows everything in detail and to be honest i was amazed he still wanted to be with me after sharing it with him, I am not used to being with someone normal and loving. I swore I would never get into another serious relationship again, yeah...duh! But I met him, fell totally in love and still can't believe anyone can love me so much.
The subject I am curious about, and it is not a major concern i just over think things and have this need to have things sorted in my own mind, what ways are there to be more serious with my partner? As in what if at some point one of us, or both, want to make the relationship more serious? Marriage is not an option, my partner is married.
I am not necessarily asking for advice on a current situation I realise, more interested in the ways others show each other they are serious. (I hope this makes sense, I am slightly dyslexic and have fibromyalgia which causes me to confuse words and things so sometimes struggle to get things across in a way that makes sense to others.)
I realise that by asking myself this I must subconsciously WANT it to progress to something more serious, but hey that could be a very long winded post lol