MustHaveBeentheRoses
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I've been in a LDR with my boyfriend for four years now and with my husband for 18 years. My husband and boyfriend have met a few times and are very respectful of each other. Both my hubs and BF are monogamous with me. My husband and I have a 10 year old child who has met my BF. My BF has a 16 year old daughter and an 18 year old son who live with their mother- (BF ex wife). I have been camping with BF and his son previously, but haven't met his daughter. BF proposed a long summer trip with his daughter which would include a short stop in my state and a night or two at my home.
BFs ex wife has expressly forbidden her daughter to be at my home with her father. Regardless of the myriad of inconsistencies with the ex wife's reasoning since their marriage had many of the same threads of non monagamy, and that their decree does not mandate her prior approval of vacation locations; she has threatened to involve a judge. My heart breaks at the vindictiveness towards my BF as his daughter has expressed a big interest in meeting me. And it is breaking a bit at the judgement and assumptions of me without ever meeting me or asking any questions.
My question is not for me, but for my BF- what resources are there to support him and challenge the threat to his parental rights?
After four years, I would enjoy meeting his daughter and getting to know her and hopefully show her that her dad is in a happy relationship, but it has to be the appropriate time.
BFs ex wife has expressly forbidden her daughter to be at my home with her father. Regardless of the myriad of inconsistencies with the ex wife's reasoning since their marriage had many of the same threads of non monagamy, and that their decree does not mandate her prior approval of vacation locations; she has threatened to involve a judge. My heart breaks at the vindictiveness towards my BF as his daughter has expressed a big interest in meeting me. And it is breaking a bit at the judgement and assumptions of me without ever meeting me or asking any questions.
My question is not for me, but for my BF- what resources are there to support him and challenge the threat to his parental rights?
After four years, I would enjoy meeting his daughter and getting to know her and hopefully show her that her dad is in a happy relationship, but it has to be the appropriate time.