why "poly women" are bisexual ???

fleurisseur

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hellooooooooo friends

it is interesting to notice that almost all women here, real "polys" or "thinking about it" are bisexual.

(I am going to say it shortly, I could write a book, poetry, on this matter...)

In my opinion this relies on a "female universal psychology" :
the woman is much more able to adapt herself to "changes".

Since millions of years she leaves her house, parents, friends, her personal family name, and even her city. This is a strong push to "change/adaptation".

And this "ability to change" relies on what ?
on "generosity"...

on a much complex "emotion/feeling" system than the male one.

This is essentially why I became a teacher :
apart the (normal) pure teacher's pleasure of "building the progresses of the other one",
I discovered that "the woman is a violin",
and I see my role as "playing the most wonderful symphonies she may sing"...

Additionally I discovered that a woman “loves better” the man that has this skill…

So, back to the point, the woman may easier be BISEXUAL, because she may adapt herself faster/better than a man...

Furthermore (no insult, no offense, it is just something I noticed), bisexual women are "more clever" and "more generous", and have a faster brain.

I could continue for hours on this interesting subject.

Tell me your thoughts, please

If it is NOT interesting, say it.
Thanks
 
I'd say women have had to be adaptable as in a patriarchal, Western capitalist societies we haven't had a choice! Leaving the family was not often a choice (we were sold off as property in marriage by our fathers) we lost our family names due to this, being housewives/working for the war effort/going back to being housewives was so rarely a choice. We've had to be adaptable because there is often no other option, we simply did not have a say.

As for bisexuality, I feel that it is socially more acceptable for women to be bisexual. A lot of men are terrified (due to social constructs) of being seen as 'gay' or a 'pansy man' - which is why a lot of guys can't even consider anal sex with their female partner for fear of it making them 'gay'. Women have less far to jump to consider being bisexual, and to an extent less to 'lose' in terms of face. Not to mention the lesbianism=sexy construct (which completely devalues women's sexuality) which means women will kiss friends for the benefit of the men watching :rolleyes:
 
In the poly circles I've ever moved in, most women are NOT bisexual. I am only one of 2 that I know are fully bisexual, have had or have relationships with both men and women.

I do know that many women in poly or swinging or experimenting relationships try many things they normally wouldn't at the urging of their S/O, some even under duress and with many regrets.
 
I do know that many women in poly or swinging or experimenting relationships try many things they normally wouldn't at the urging of their S/O, some even under duress and with many regrets.

Be careful, you're "stereotyping" women who are poly, swingers, or in experimental relationships. People searching in Google might think this forum is marginalizing and oppressive and stuff, and leave. :rolleyes:
 
I'd say women have had to be adaptable as in a patriarchal, Western capitalist societies we haven't had a choice! Leaving the family was not often a choice (we were sold off as property in marriage by our fathers) we lost our family names due to this, being housewives/working for the war effort/going back to being housewives was so rarely a choice. We've had to be adaptable because there is often no other option, we simply did not have a say.

As for bisexuality, I feel that it is socially more acceptable for women to be bisexual. A lot of men are terrified (due to social constructs) of being seen as 'gay' or a 'pansy man' - which is why a lot of guys can't even consider anal sex with their female partner for fear of it making them 'gay'. Women have less far to jump to consider being bisexual, and to an extent less to 'lose' in terms of face. Not to mention the lesbianism=sexy construct (which completely devalues women's sexuality) which means women will kiss friends for the benefit of the men watching :rolleyes:

Really? Mind, I can count on one hand the sexual partners I've been with (yeah, I'm as vanilla as they come) but...seems they want to try anal sex at least once. Guess perhaps I wound up with men that were more secure in their sexuality? or more into "experimenting"? DK.
Oh, well.
 
Be careful, you're "stereotyping" women who are poly, swingers, or in experimental relationships. People searching in Google might think this forum is marginalizing and oppressive and stuff, and leave. :rolleyes:
Nope, I'm not stereotyping anyone. I'm speaking of specific people (who shall not be named, naturally ;) ) that I have known personally in 20 years of being involved in said communities. Is this the kind of forum where I can't speak freely and need all sorts of qualifiers?

I am new here, but trust me, I am all about NOT marginalizing or oppressing ANYONE.
 
I prefer a BISEXUAL woman, why ?

Heloooooooooooooo

this always astonished me...
I said "above", that I noticed that a BISEXUAL woman is "more sensitive/clever/faster".

Well it may be a "perspective error", I am PERHAPS more sensitive to those kind of women.... some of the women I have LOVED are bisexual...

I noticed also that this behavior "facilitates" a "polyfamily".

ok, ok... if you are NOT bisexual, you may still be a perfect candidate for "my family"... ;)
.. the most important remains : know to "deep love", this is the number one request.

Anyhow, we are all different like a fork and a knife... (try to eat rice or noodles with a fork, and to cut meet with a fork... :eek:)

but this huge difference enables that "together" we may better eat
... the dish of LIFE
 
Nope, I'm not stereotyping anyone. I'm speaking of specific people (who shall not be named, naturally ;) ) that I have known personally in 20 years of being involved in said communities. Is this the kind of forum where I can't speak freely and need all sorts of qualifiers?

I am new here, but trust me, I am all about NOT marginalizing or oppressing ANYONE.

I didn't take what she said as stereotyping at all -- just her opinion with true people she's met...total facts.
As for me -- I'm seeing bisexual women seem to have more fun in life! I've had my first experiences within the last year & they were more intense, in some respects. It has enhanced some fun with SO, too! Everyone being happy is a good thing, right?!!! ;)
 
bisexual women are "better" ? please become bisexual !!!

Well, if I love you (it is YOUR ROLE to install in my heart a deep love for you ... :p)
.. in this case I would like to offer you "the best of life" ...

And as you know (look your past years...) life is short...

So, please my darling, don't be afraid to become bisexual, I will help you.
 
Well, if I love you (it is YOUR ROLE to install in my heart a deep love for you ... :p)
.. in this case I would like to offer you "the best of life" ...

And as you know (look your past years...) life is short...

So, please my darling, don't be afraid to become bisexual, I will help you.

I don't get this -- sorry -- what I do is MY choice -- I'm choosing to explore. He's just receiving some extra benefits!
 
I wasn't accusing you of forcing anyone -- sorry -- guess that didn't read the way I heard it in my head!
 
I am straight. I am poly. I love and embrace change as it is inevitable. Granted the OP does use the phrase, "almost all" which shows that he's not making it an absolute. So I suppose I get to be one of the exceptions to his statement.

I also agree with freeantigone, that men are less likely to come out as bi because it is not as "acceptable" socially as a bi female. If you look at the porn industry that really shows. Finding MF, MFF, FF, and MFM (male on female only) stuff is easy, finding MM is a little more specialized but also relatively easy. But if you look for MMF, where there is also male on male sex, it is a lot more difficult, or at least does not come up as often. Of course, this is just from my own searching/viewing experience which may not be as extensive as others.

Phoenix762: Really? Mind, I can count on one hand the sexual partners I've been with (yeah, I'm as vanilla as they come) but...seems they want to try anal sex at least once.
And also as she(?) said, a lot of men are less likely to have anal sex with women for fear of being thought of as closeted gay. Not all men, not even most men.

OP: Furthermore (no insult, no offense, it is just something I noticed), bisexual women are "more clever" and "more generous", and have a faster brain.
Also going to have to be an exception to this. Not insulted or offended, I just happen to be an exception.
 
Nope, I'm not stereotyping anyone. I'm speaking of specific people (who shall not be named, naturally ;) ) that I have known personally in 20 years of being involved in said communities. Is this the kind of forum where I can't speak freely and need all sorts of qualifiers?

I am new here, but trust me, I am all about NOT marginalizing or oppressing ANYONE.



I was being a wise-ass. Half-serious, half-sarcastic as always. Beleeve me I know where you are coming from. I been there done that and it's nice to see I am not alone, not that is it mattered it I were but wahevet. Carry on. Kirk out/
 
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As for bisexuality, I feel that it is socially more acceptable for women to be bisexual. A lot of men are terrified (due to social constructs) of being seen as 'gay' or a 'pansy man...

I can not tell you how many men on ok cupid who have approached me, have themselves listed as straight, but can't wait to tell me how freeking bisexual they are once we start chatting. I guess because I am listed as bi, they think I won't judge. Some men have told me that when, in the past, they have confessed to having sucked a cock to a new (straight) woman they are dating, she is turned off and does not want to continue the relationship. So sad.
 
I can not tell you how many men on ok cupid who have approached me, have themselves listed as straight, but can't wait to tell me how freeking bisexual they are once we start chatting. I guess because I am listed as bi, they think I won't judge. Some men have told me that when, in the past, they have confessed to having sucked a cock to a new (straight) woman they are dating, she is turned off and does not want to continue the relationship. So sad.


Are these women turned off because of the men "having sucked a cock", or because they misrepresented themselves as "straight"? I for one don't reckon too much on going through life worrying about how other people judge me, but that's just me. Perhaps that is why I am not concerned about whether or not it "looks" like I'm judging other people... because I don't think they should give a damn what I think.
 
Are these women turned off because of the men "having sucked a cock", or because they misrepresented themselves as "straight"?

No, iirc, it wasnt okc women, but women they met in other venues.

I for one don't reckon too much on going through life worrying about how other people judge me, but that's just me. Perhaps that is why I am not concerned about whether or not it "looks" like I'm judging other people... because I don't think they should give a damn what I think.

haha, you're a hoot.
 
I think the fact that being bi is listed as a choice, as well as the assumption that bi women are better, are insulting.

Being bi isn't a choice, just like being gay or straight isn't a choice. My life would be a lot easier in a lot of ways if I was straight (not that I wish I was, but the whole "choice" thing completely invalidates the experience of being a sexual minority in a heteronormative society).

I think it's one thing to say "I prefer being with bi women" but to say that they are flat out better or smarter is pretty lame.
 
........... Is this the kind of forum where I can't speak freely and need all sorts of qualifiers?

I am new here, but trust me, I am all about NOT marginalizing or oppressing ANYONE.

Nope Passion,

You NEED to speak free and from the heart. That's what keeps it real.
If someone gets their panties in a bunch because of it just don't fall into the trap of feeling you have to defend yourself. Just let it roll. People who get offended by simple speech will always be offended. People who aren't never will be. It all comes out the same in the end.

:)

GS
 
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