How about looking for women to get to know and relate to, share yourself with, be in relationship with, instead of "completing your triad?" I mean, what do you intend to do, pour them into a mold? Wouldn't you rather be with people than a configuration?
I am relatively new to the CT area. I have recently moved from the Seattle area where i still technically live (i am here for the next year). I am far away from my normal romantic connections. I am lonely and want to meet people I can mesh with and perhaps find someone who can help me with some loneliness.
I had been wondering what the poly scene is like in CT... I attend some groups in western MA and we often get folks who drive up to our events from CT, possibly from a lack of more local support. But I expect that folks in southern CT would be more likely to travel south than north to find like-minded people. And what about Hartford? Anyway, best of luck to you CT folks in connecting with each other!!