midnightsun
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Ya, and if you don't sort it out by the time you leave here the bull whip will come out, I'll line you all up
Ooo! Ooo! Me first! Me first!
Oops! Was that out LOUD!?
Ya, and if you don't sort it out by the time you leave here the bull whip will come out, I'll line you all up
WOW! Gulp! I felt that smack of reality! Again...so guilty of being part of the same patterns. Why is it that we can intellectually see the bad behaviors in others but emotionally we cannot control our own negative output in our relationships? YIKES! I got some work to do too! Thanks MidSun!
GG's relationship w/LR is *his* relationship. If he's not there for her when she needs him, that's up to HER to deal with w/him. Maca, I hear you being resentful because he wasn't there... well, if u were in a "mono" relationship it would've been just you anyway... right? It's up to LR to hold him accountable for acting as if you & her are in a mono relationship and he's just a roommate.
I've gotten the impression from over & over again that you feel like you're in a poly relationship "against your will" to a certain extent. You've repeatedly stated that you'd prefer to be in a mono relationship w/LR. Yet, when GG gives you what you ask for and acts like a roommate... you are resentful of him. And when he gives LR what she needs/wants and acts like a boyfriend, you're resentful of him as well. Shame on him for trying to please you both instead of figuring out what *he* wants... but even so, I can see why the heck he's confused about how to act. He's a people-pleaser to the core of his soul, and he's trying to please you both... which at the moment (since you & LR both want different things) is a lose-lose proposition for him.
No offence Kattails but....knock this shit off. Thinking this way will only perpetuate the issues that are causing the problem. If you decide you are the biggest part of the problem then you will become that. You're simply human with emotions, needs and wants. You are not a problem in your realtionship, you are a factor in it. The equation is the sum total of all the factors. Coming to a mutually healthy and beneficial answer is the goal...the problem is in how to achieve that.
Peace and Love
Mono
I know I'm over-simplifying it... but seriously... shut up and pedal or get off the bike. Both of you.
I was telling GG and LR lastnight that I find it odd that so many people on the board say things to us like " you guys are doing such a great job" or " you guys give me hope" and I think to myself " damn I have got a long ways to go " or " I hope someday to be as secure as X person or as accepting as Y person.
We all have are battles and they all can be so difficult to us and yet be so simple for others.Its all about the lessons we have already learned in life.
To use your analogy MS.You maybe able to ride a bicycle but if I handed you a motorcycle you might be lost. Then say you can ride a motorcycle but I hand you a 1200 cc hyper bike that maybe just enough power to scare you stiff. That might even be enough power to scare you so bad that you wreck the bike.
I agree that its a choice and its my choice to " pedal ".
I was telling GG and LR lastnight that I find it odd that so many people on the board say things to us like " you guys are doing such a great job" or " you guys give me hope" and I think to myself " damn I have got a long ways to go " or " I hope someday to be as secure as X person or as accepting as Y person.
Good luck Maca, LR and GG. I hope you guys can work this out!
Kat
And if anyone does throw their head in the sand...it leaves them ripe for a little paddling .
Kat-
Greengecko quoted the sheryl crow song-hell if I know which one it is-ask him, he always knows music shit.
You can spend a lifetime miserable dreaming about what COULD'VE BEEN (song called that too actually).
My son doesn't whine much. He used to but everytime he does I ask him the same thing, "what do you need" "talk to me about what is going on for you" "what do you need to do to get your needs met?"
I am teaching him to think this way early. He is getting it.
"Soak up the sun" -Sheryl Crow 2002
"Could've been" -Tiffany 1987
ANOTHER thing in common..........RP/Mono/Ariakis- I will be there, no worries. =o) Looking forward to fire and beer. =o)
I love you too M'ebe. AAFTEOTA.LR- ...I love you so!
Well I gotta have someone I can let those momentary Dom emotions out on.Thank you for being the open handed smack to my head.
I think I pee'd a little!
God that was fucking HYSTERICAL to visualize!!!
I so can't wait to sit around a campfire with you guys either!!