Emm
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You know... You can still adopt.
You know... You can still adopt.
You know... You can still adopt.
Don't you?
This one always gets me, what do people really expect you to say to that?
The whole topic of having children is one of the reasons I HATE "small talk" - it seems an obligatory question that people just can't seem to let go of...like I want to share my struggles and decisions over one of the most important decisions a person can make in their lives with a relative stranger. ...(actually our families are not at all nosy and would never pest us about kids, it's the random social encounters that piss me off)
My usual line is that I'm allergic to children.OR, even better, "No, I'm allergic to crotch-fruit."
In this case, nothing. He was being facetious.
Actually, I did recognize that - he used the "wink" smiley appropriately - I was just expanding on the point I thought he was making - hence my "tongue-sticking-out" smiley.
"No, I'm allergic to crotch-fruit."
However, I do wish we had more of a variety of smilies available here. I think they help get the point (humor, sarcasm, etc.) across more effectively than without them, sometimes.
You can always use external smileys, just insert them as an image...
*waves*
I'm working on "regular", but I don't think I'll ever be "frequent".
I found that dropped significantly once I was able to tell the well-meaning busybody that I'd had my tubes tied.
Active poly the past 20 years. We are honest with each other and those we bring into relationships but we choose to keep it withing our personal circle. We are and will remain in the closet because; 1) it is our personal choice much like our spirituality it is ours. We have an inclusive accepting nature we employ in our every day busy life. 2) Respect the personal views of others. Some of our friends, family and colleagues would not understand and could be conflicted by our choices.
The only people we're not out to are our parents. My husband wouldn't care about telling his, but I'm very hesitant about telling mine. They're old, very conservative, don't deal very well with talking about personal stuff, and we are not very close.
But, lately I've been feeling bad about lying to my mom about my whereabouts. Our conversations are pretty superfucial, so they often deal with where I've been and what I've been doing, and it has happened a couple of times that I said I spent a quiet weekend at home when I was in fact at my BF's (he lives in another city where I know noone else, so telling her I was visiting a friend in city X would be too weird). So, I don't know, I might tell them one of these days... am really dreading it though.
My husband has told his grown daughter some time ago he had a 'special friend' and she knows, but has said she doesn't want to discuss it with him.
Which makes me wonder... IF I tell my parents, what would I tell them? The easiest thing for them to stomach would be: "I'm in a serious second relationship, and btw so is Ren, and we're also still happy together".
The truth ("I'm exploring having lots of different relationships, spend a lot of time in city X with my BF, but also a lot of time with other guys") would be different I guess.....
well, as of yesterday, I'm out to my parents as well.
I can't really tell if it went well or not... which means I'm not really sure what their reaction will be, in the long run. But I know I'm immensely relieved that this secret has gone from my life.
More here.