I cannot be out at work, at all... ever... Morality clauses suck, but I love my career. I grew up in a very rural area. Everybody was all up in everybody's business, and they would use any information they could to make not only your life he'll but your extended family's as well. I learned to value my privacy very very much.
Now, I have friends that I am out to, they make up my social life. I have no problem introducing partners to them as partners. I would probably not take anyone around my coworkers. I dont socialize with my coworkers anyway. My husband is the only one I have inflicted my family on. My other partners have politely declined to go to an area with no Internet, no cell phone service, and lots and lots of banjos. Actually, where I grew up makes Deliverance look civilized. I just have never been in a position to need to explain my relationship to anyone.