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Old 07-04-2018, 06:19 PM
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Default Wife on her first solo date

*Post subject:*Wife's first solo date.

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My wife is currently sitting at a pub on her first solo date since she decided she wanted a boyfriend as well as a husband,I am sitting at home waiting for her to come back home,she drove so she will be only drinking soft drinks so she can keep a clear head so she can decide if she likes him enough for a second date, if she likes him though they may park up somewhere for a few kisses.

Sitting here while she is out with another man enjoying his company seems so natural to me,though I am slightly anxious to hear how it went she she gets home I am very excited too.
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Old 07-04-2018, 07:52 PM
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That's awesome, Skyblade.
Long may the naturalness continue.
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Old 07-04-2018, 08:14 PM
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Thanks Evie

She got home about half an hour ago, it went well though she is a bit undersided about him but he was really nice and she did enjoy herself, but she didn't get the fireworks she is looking for.
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Old 07-04-2018, 09:04 PM
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Fireworks are pretty rare.
Better luck next time
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Old 07-05-2018, 11:23 AM
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I agree with your thoughts, I think this will be a long-term stable relationship.
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Old 07-05-2018, 11:30 AM
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We had a bit of a talk last night when she got home and I asked her what she liked and didn't like about him, TBH it was mainly good things I can't actually think of any negatives, I seems interested in spending time with me too.

She texted me this morning while I was at work and said that she wants to try things with him, she likes enough to see how things go.

He has also been in a polyamory relationship before till the couple moved away so he knows what to expect.
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Old 07-05-2018, 09:52 PM
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Nice. That will hopefully make it easier.
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Old 07-06-2018, 01:13 AM
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Hi Skyblade,

It sounds like things are going pretty well with the wife and the new guy so far. That is good to hear. If you're willing, keep posting as the situation progresses.

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Old 07-06-2018, 03:47 PM
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When I'm shopping for a house, I don't write a check for the only one I view.

When I'm looking for a car, I test-drive more than one, probably at multiuple dealerships.

If I have a momentary need for a flat or a vehicle, I might latch onto something handy, that's good enough for the immediate future despite various shortcomings, in order to "tide me over" until the need can be properly filled for the longer term. But I don't talk myself into settling for "good enough" for the long term, ignoring the shortcomings as somehow no longer relevant.

My concern in your situation is that your partner is already settling --
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she is a bit [undecided] about him but he was really nice and she did enjoy herself, but she didn't get the fireworks she is looking for.
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she wants to try things with him, she likes enough to see how things go.
You seem to be settling as well --
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I can't actually think of any negatives, [he] seems interested in spending time with me too.
There's nothing inherently wrong with maintaining a positive outlook -- hope, that is -- that eventually she will find someone with whom to build an emotionally deep long-term relationship. Maybe even this guy... once she has some basis for comparison. How much experience has she had in her life with dating? How recently? If "not much" or "not recently," then she needs practice at getting to know others.

If she just wants a little casual fun "on the side," maybe he's suitable. The chances, though, that the very first one is anything near ideal for long-term stability OR deep connection are vanishingly small.

In the meantime, what is she doing to find others to meet?
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Old 07-06-2018, 04:11 PM
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When I'm shopping for a house, I don't write a check for the only one I view.

When I'm looking for a car, I test-drive more than one, probably at multiuple dealerships.

If I have a momentary need for a flat or a vehicle, I might latch onto something handy, that's good enough for the immediate future despite various shortcomings, in order to "tide me over" until the need can be properly filled for the longer term. But I don't talk myself into settling for "good enough" for the long term, ignoring the shortcomings as somehow no longer relevant.

My concern in your situation is that your partner is already settling --


You seem to be settling as well --

There's nothing inherently wrong with maintaining a positive outlook -- hope, that is -- that eventually she will find someone with whom to build an emotionally deep long-term relationship. Maybe even this guy... once she has some basis for comparison. How much experience has she had in her life with dating? How recently? If "not much" or "not recently," then she needs practice at getting to know others.

If she just wants a little casual fun "on the side," maybe he's suitable. The chances, though, that the very first one is anything near ideal for long-term stability OR deep connection are vanishingly small.

In the meantime, what is she doing to find others to meet?

Thanks for your reply and I agree with you she shouldn't settled but she is really glad she has decided to go for it with this guy.

As for her experience we have been living a stag vixen lifestyle for a about 18 months now,she Is also a part time escort so she has had plenty of experience socializing with men,the hotwifing will stop now tjough.
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