Ravenscroft
Banned
Oh, before I forget: more definitions.
Polyamory Society --
Has anyone else noticed how many definitions invalidate someone? Asexuals miss the Zell definition. Solo-poly, because how can they be considered "committed"? (Another great undefined word. ) Naturally, having any number of longterm FWBs doesn't count, failing the test at committed or serious or loving or romantic. And those of us who don't have at least two "serious" "partners" right this very second fail some definitions.
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Hmm. Looking back in the thread, I found this curious note --
Polyamory Society --
Loving More --Polyamory is the nonpossessive, honest, responsible and ethical philosophy and practice of loving multiple people simultanously.
More Than Two website --Polyamory refers to romantic love with more than one person, honestly, ethically, and with the full knowledge and consent of all concerned. Polyamory often involves multiple long-term committed relationships, either separately or together, but it can also come in many different forms.
More Than Two (book) --A polyamorous person is someone who has or is open to having more than one romantic relationship at a time, with the knowledge and consent of all their partners.
A polyamorous relationship is a romantic relationship where the people in the relationship agree that it’s okay for everyone to be open to or have other romantic partners.
Polyamory is the idea or practice of being polyamorous or having polyamorous relationships.
Sheff again--having multiple loving, often committed, relationships at the same time by mutual agreement, with honesty and clarity.
Sheff once more --a relationship style where people have more than one partner with the full knowledge and consent of all their partners.
the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships where individuals may have more than one partner, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
Has anyone else noticed how many definitions invalidate someone? Asexuals miss the Zell definition. Solo-poly, because how can they be considered "committed"? (Another great undefined word. ) Naturally, having any number of longterm FWBs doesn't count, failing the test at committed or serious or loving or romantic. And those of us who don't have at least two "serious" "partners" right this very second fail some definitions.
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Hmm. Looking back in the thread, I found this curious note --
Dr. Elisabeth "Eli" Sheff
(Widely respected polyamory researcher, author of "The Polyamorists Next Door" and "Stories From the Polycule".)
- "respected" by whom?
- vas ist das "respect"?
- how "widely" are we talkin'?
- am I the only one who has read neither of these books?
- does this Authority make her definition... umm, definitive?
- if so, which one?