luvmy3kidz
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Hello all. I know this topic sounds very strange. "possibly poly" but. after a situation started occuring, and the way things have turned. it has caused me to do a lot of soul searching and I am feeling that I may be entering into a polyamorous lifestyle... i think!
I am married with 3 kids in lovely sterling heights Mi. after years of habitual cheating. leaving 1 lover for another (never on going or just randomly thorughout the relationship. it was always from one to another) I got married and until recently put my old ways behind me. But out marriage has been rocky from day one. there were many issues.
recently I met someone and very quickly we started seeing eachother. I got caught by my husband and after doing some thinking he has suggested we try and have an open marriage. seeing the strong emotional connection between me and the other man. he couldnt bring himself to tell me to stop. he accepted that he does not fullfill all of my needs. but we do love eachother. he is not interested in persuing any other relationships. as he put it, we can be "polymogs"
after much talking between both men and I, all parties have agreed to a poly relationship.
looking back on my life I have realized that everytime i have cheated on a partner and then left them for the new person. that new person fulfilled needs that were not met by the partner i had at the time. my ex fiance for examply was very loving and affectionate. but was not very mature. he had no goals, he was very irresponsible, my husband had all of those qualities. but lacked in affection. I thought I would be fine with this but as time went on. I obviously wasn't.
So. long story short 4 days ago I was secretly seeing someone i had completly fallen in love with while trying my best to be a good wife and mother. now today I am in the middle of a relationship with two men. both of whom are accepting of this arrangement. I do not know how to move forward at this time, i do not know if this is in fact polyamory or something different. both men have no desires to ever meet. I am very new to all of this and do not know how this works. I do want it to work though because everyone seems to be very happy in the situation. my husband and I are suddenly having better communication, my other partner is a little confused but happy that we can be together with less worry and guilt.
so.. HI ALL! i look forward to talking with everyone here and getting to know you all and this new lifestyle! just need a little bit of guidance and support.
I am married with 3 kids in lovely sterling heights Mi. after years of habitual cheating. leaving 1 lover for another (never on going or just randomly thorughout the relationship. it was always from one to another) I got married and until recently put my old ways behind me. But out marriage has been rocky from day one. there were many issues.
recently I met someone and very quickly we started seeing eachother. I got caught by my husband and after doing some thinking he has suggested we try and have an open marriage. seeing the strong emotional connection between me and the other man. he couldnt bring himself to tell me to stop. he accepted that he does not fullfill all of my needs. but we do love eachother. he is not interested in persuing any other relationships. as he put it, we can be "polymogs"
after much talking between both men and I, all parties have agreed to a poly relationship.
looking back on my life I have realized that everytime i have cheated on a partner and then left them for the new person. that new person fulfilled needs that were not met by the partner i had at the time. my ex fiance for examply was very loving and affectionate. but was not very mature. he had no goals, he was very irresponsible, my husband had all of those qualities. but lacked in affection. I thought I would be fine with this but as time went on. I obviously wasn't.
So. long story short 4 days ago I was secretly seeing someone i had completly fallen in love with while trying my best to be a good wife and mother. now today I am in the middle of a relationship with two men. both of whom are accepting of this arrangement. I do not know how to move forward at this time, i do not know if this is in fact polyamory or something different. both men have no desires to ever meet. I am very new to all of this and do not know how this works. I do want it to work though because everyone seems to be very happy in the situation. my husband and I are suddenly having better communication, my other partner is a little confused but happy that we can be together with less worry and guilt.
so.. HI ALL! i look forward to talking with everyone here and getting to know you all and this new lifestyle! just need a little bit of guidance and support.