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Old 07-09-2018, 03:15 AM
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I am getting the hang of this free time malarky. I did a lot of bits and pieces this morning and then read all afternoon. I am binge reading The Expanse series and finally got The Churn ( Amos novella ) today, flew through that and went back to my other book. I am expecting Abbadon's Gate tomorrow. I love the library, every place I have lived I have joined the local library and the digital library is great for grabbing something at the weekend or waiting for a book on order. I then did a bunch of research for the up-coming vacation which I really enjoyed.

Mr PoD: We talked on the phone after having yet another weird text conversation. He keeps telling me I am smart but act like an idiot ( often true ) He is always right. He thinks about things and comes to a conclusion and there is no room for argument, because he is always right. The light went on for me after I had taken a few minutes to think over the pone call. Very insecure person who needs his ego stroked on a regular basis and feels better about himself by passing out back handed insult/compliments.

As we are not likely to see each other for the next few weeks, the odds of him driving to see me are nil, I think it will be fine to do the fade away. My recent attempts to end things nicely with people has too often resulted in the "But I'm a nice guy," text rants and that is a bit scary, best to let him break up with me. I am an idiot with a low E.Q. so he is way better off without me.
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Mr Dom: early 50s . Ex BF and now good friend.
Mr Six: early 50s. FWB for 3+ years.
Mr Lime: Early 50s. Recent meet. Kinky Dom.

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Old 07-10-2018, 06:40 PM
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Seeing Eeyore tonight. I should really give him another name. I am not good at the names and that is one a friend came up a couple of years ago and it stuck in my head. Mr Six. We see each other about every 6 weeks or according to his reckoning. I think we have been seeing each other almost 4 years at this point. We catch up, eat and have sex and he goes home. Works out just fine.

Quite a lot of chat and planning with Prof. The usual Wednesday will be happening tomorrow. He said he will need to stay up late and work, as if I have ever tried to stop him working and as if I ever stay up late

I have been doing quite a few Bumble chats, and that's what they mostly are, chat. I now unmatch anyone who doesn't at least the raise the possibility of meeting within the first few days.

Apart from that, lots of physical activity, yesterday was gym and bike ride. Still picking away at the house stuff. I pulled all the screens off and washed as much window as I could reach without leaning out and not standing on step ladders or chairs. I currently have no health insurance which is scary as fuck. I have read up on retroactive COBRA so will complete the paperwork and have it ready to mail if we need it. It costs over $2k a month, which I don't have just sitting around, so fingers crossed no one does anything stupid.

I am looking forward to the kids being back and then complaining that I am exhausted.
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Prof: late 50s. 5+ years.
Mr Dom: early 50s . Ex BF and now good friend.
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Old 07-11-2018, 04:03 PM
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I changed Eeyore's name in my sig to Mr Six.
We had a very nice evening, same format as we usually have, small plates, a couple of drinks, lots of chat and some really good hard fucking. He has the hair pulling totally down to a fine art. There was some choking too, which I love. He is very firm and physical, strong movements and lots of position changes. He says he only does this style of sex with me, so I appreciate that he goes outside of his box.
After I finished work almost 2 weeks ago now, I deleted my work email account from my phone, not realizing that it contained most of my phone contacts. It had been closed down by work and kept flashing up annoying "enter your password" notifications. My phone has been a mess ever since. I have tried a number of tips and tricks to get the contact names back but they seem to be gone. The upshot is I will have to manually write down the numbers from text messages and create a new list of contacts. Apparently, while messing with settings and doing various resets, I turned of my voicemail and various other notifications. Yesterday I came across a bunch of voicemail messages that I hadn't seen or played. I am that person who says their phone is messed up and means it.
I thought Mr Dom had fallen off the face of the planet, and there were 2 phone calls from him that I had missed. We had a good chat yesterday, he says the night shift is killing him and he is really struggling to get anything done and feels permanently wiped out. He apologized for not being his usual chatty self but spends most of his days off sleeping and feeling out of sorts. He is applying for other jobs.
Not long till the kids come back! I feel a bit bad that they are coming back and 3 hours later I'll be leaving for the comedy show with my ex-work friends. But we will have a whole 3 weeks together to drive each other nuts
Heading to Prof's sometime today after the gym and various house items. I pulled all the curtains yesterday and hung them back up straight out of the washer. They dried in no time due to the heat, exciting stuff, eh?
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Prof: late 50s. 5+ years.
Mr Dom: early 50s . Ex BF and now good friend.
Mr Six: early 50s. FWB for 3+ years.
Mr Lime: Early 50s. Recent meet. Kinky Dom.

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Old 07-12-2018, 04:59 PM
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Prof can't make it in the road trip, not a big surprise, as I knew there was a lot of work stuff coming up. We may just have 2 of us vacation in August. We will see. Money is an issue. I need to book plane tickets for a wedding and of course flying at the weekend is always more expensive.
Prof and I were jokingly talking about kids and retirement. - My kids plan to have me live with them and take of their 1 million babies! When we play "Game of Life" I always skip the "having children" track and they put 2 kids in my plastic car anyway It is a joke, please don't think they take it anyway but a joke. - So I said to Prof I'll end up with my kids for retirement and they currently seem keen on the idea ( give them another 20 years and it will be different ) he said his kids would never offer to take him. I think that is sad but true. He doesn't have a good relationship with either of them. It very much reinforces my plan to downgrade work for at least the next few years. I negotiated for money for time in my new job. Mr Six is allowed to take off whatever time he wants in his job, there is no vacation or sick time. As long as he gets whatever he need to get done, done then he can take time off. When I went out with Mr Six the other night he said he had never been with me when I wasn't also working on my phone at the same time. Pretty sad.

Mr Chef popped up again, the ongoing medical stuff is a challenge.

I have made my Bumble account " not public" as I am not willing to pay for the sitter for first dates. I did offer to do that for Mr PoD and the one bumble guy I have been talking too, but I don't either of them will actually try to schedule.

Off to the comedy show tonight with my work friends. It all looked fairly cheap till you factor in baby sitter costs. argh.
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Mr Dom: early 50s . Ex BF and now good friend.
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Old 07-15-2018, 04:21 AM
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The comedy show night was great, well known comedian in a beautiful venue.
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Mr Dom: early 50s . Ex BF and now good friend.
Mr Six: early 50s. FWB for 3+ years.
Mr Lime: Early 50s. Recent meet. Kinky Dom.

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Old 07-24-2018, 04:54 PM
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The trip with the kids was great, a definite success for our first road trip of any duration. I am recovering from all the driving and will go to yoga today to continue to stretch out my right leg, even with a lot of cruise control 2,000 miles was a lot to do by myself.
Dating and relating is an odd mishmash. Mr PoD popped up wondering where I was, apparently forgot I was going on holiday. I am feeling rather meh about him as I am putting in all the work. He asked me when I was coming to see him; I already told him I was tied up till August and he would need to come and see me if we are to meet.
The Bumble guy has ghosted, too long between talking and meeting and not enough enthusiasm about setting a day and time.
I had a nasty chat with some dude on Bumble which left me quite put off about OLD again and was texting Roomie about it. We were discussing various dating websites and POF came up, so I signed into my account for the first time in 2 years and got into a conversation with a guy almost immediately. We have since been texting and phone talking up a storm and plan to meet when he returns from a wedding next week. I have not brought up any mention of open relationships but don't get the vibe that he has multiple partners. We will see what happens if and when we actually meet. I have been thinking about the ethics of not sharing that I currently have active partners but I don't think any of those partners would actually care all that much if I fell of the face of the planet and stopped seeing them, how sad is that?
Prof might. He is coming back from a work trip on Weds so we are working out if he comes to me or I go there with the kids and sleeping bags.
While driving, I thought a lot about Prof having one of his other partners at his house when he had his family over for the 4th. He didn't ask me. Maybe it was not particularly planned or that person is a big 4th fan but it is stinging that I feel a little like the side-chick, even after all these years. I know I am not good terribly good a group social situations but I feel like he has excluded me from meeting his friends and family for years. I was contemplating asking him if I could go to one of his family reunion events with him. He is quite happy to go to mine and has meet most of my family on multiple occasions. I am fairly sure the reunion is after I start my new job, so I couldn't go even if he said yes and even if it did work out, then what? I am just not the person who enjoys big events. Ugh. I feel quite undateable.
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Me: mid 40s female.
Prof: late 50s. 5+ years.
Mr Dom: early 50s . Ex BF and now good friend.
Mr Six: early 50s. FWB for 3+ years.
Mr Lime: Early 50s. Recent meet. Kinky Dom.

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Old 07-25-2018, 04:46 PM
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When we came back from vacation I put a load of laundry in the machine and it started leaking on the floor, I did a bit rearranging and tried again, more water. I spent a good part Sunday watching youtube and trying to source a new gasket or door bellow as it is called. While waiting for that to arrive from Amazon, I cleaned out the dryer up to the point of putting my hand up the wall and cleaning the exhaust pipe. The part arrived yesterday and the whole process took about 9 hours to install it, with a few breaks. It was nightmare due to the fact the videos I were watching were not exactly the same model and they kept saying part of the rim needed to be tucked in. Every time I got the main rim on ( which was a battle in and of its self) it would pop off when I tried to tuck the next part in. It was hot in the garage and I was sweating hard and did end up calling an appliance repair guy who said he couldn't make till the next day. Eventually, I found another video where the second rim was not tucked in. Ah ha! Success. Talk about feeling proud! My hands are so sore today and my arms hurt from dragging the thing back and forward. But I did it myself
Lots more talk and chat with Mr Car, the third night up in a row, we talked till 1 a.m. last night. I am putting the brakes on the sexy talk a bit, I told him I want to get the first meeting done before getting too involved with that. He was fine about it. We have talked quite a lot about sex and BDSM but not in the "Are you wearing something sexy now?", sense. We had tentatively scheduled to meet on Tuesday and now he wants to change it to Weds. Makes me wonder slightly due to the current climate of non-commital meetings and then ghosting.
Prof is back tonight. I am looking forward to seeing him.
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Prof: late 50s. 5+ years.
Mr Dom: early 50s . Ex BF and now good friend.
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Old 07-27-2018, 04:01 AM
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Last night with Prof was really good, catching up on his recent trip and my road trip with the kiddos. The sex was great; hot and intense. I asked him about next week and he said he was going to try and schedule his return flight to be back in time for something similar to last night. Much as I complain about him, it did remind that he says I am the person he sees most regularly and he really tries to not cancel Weds nights.
Mr Car is still chatting up a storm, said he wishes I was with him at the resort for the wedding. I haven't even met him yet! But he is doing a lot of celebratory drinking and getting a bit carried away. He did say tonight that he doesn't usually drink anywhere so much and it is just this a big week for the family and is doing a lot of celebrating. I said I understand that and I am not judging, though to be honest I kind of was a little
We were talking on the phone last night about OLD (he loves to phone talk, yeah! ) and he said he was not into multi-dating, and always talks to women on on the phone before arranging to meet, saying that if they can't hold a phone conversation then he won't meet them. He then went on to tell me a story about a woman he was talking to on the phone the night before and decided he wouldn't meet her in person because there was no phone chemistry. And then he realized that he had just said he doesn't multi-date. He is calling now...
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Mr Dom: early 50s . Ex BF and now good friend.
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Mr Lime: Early 50s. Recent meet. Kinky Dom.
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Old 07-27-2018, 05:20 AM
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Mr Car: so cute, stepped out of the rehearsal dinner to call me, sent me pics from the church and his room. I can't get a selfie out him though, says he will get a family pic from his mom and send it.

He seems so normal! He is very into me and is oozing NRE from every pore.
The last time I did NRE was with Mr Dom and that was 2.5 years ago, my experiment with a rainbow sparkle chocolate covered boyfriend. This is way out of my comfort zone, someone enthusiastic and into me. It's what I want but yet don't want. And we still haven't met! I am so very aware that phone and text is not real but I am trying not to keep bringing that up as it presents as very pessimistic. He says he is a "the glass is half full person", I am a "the glass is currently holding 50% of its capacity." I just don't think any of it is real till you actually meet. He did ask if we could bump the first meeting from Tuesday till Wednesday as he is concerned about his Monday flight being delayed. Ummm, it's a 1.5 hour flight. But we are going to try for Tuesday as we can't wait and I will pay for the sitter, ouch. It's either that or wait till Friday when the kids go to their dad. If you get to Wednesday then Friday is not much different time wise but makes a difference money wise. Being unemployed sucks, though technically I am between contracts.

On an an entirely different note: My kids passed the "swim test" at the local pool. It means they can now go in the deep end where there are tires tubes and climbing walls; you climb and then fall back into the pool. I wanted them to pass this test before the end of the summer. I have been taking them swimming at every opportunity this summer. All the road trip hotel had pools and that was not coincidence. So, they can both swim the width of the pool and then tread water for 30 seconds. I have been very laid back with them about the whole thing, the whole " if you don't pass then no big deal" very relaxed and no pressure approach, but inside I was so hoping they could do it. Swimming is something you need to do as one of the most basic life safety tools. I used the tubes as the lure to work on building their swimming strength, a fun goal for them but I want them to be water safe. I have had issues with their dad over swimming lessons, he refuses to let them do lessons in "his parenting time" even if I pay and transport. And we are talking 2 week classes here, not huge on going time commitments. How proud was I today? I sat at the side of the pool, being nonchalant about it all on the outside and inside wanting to be one of those mad screaming sports parents. I did encourage them but was very calm about it, no shouting Go Go Go!
I taught my kids how to ride bikes too, taking the training wheels off and running around the parking lot at the old apartment day after day. Maybe I wrote about it on here. I had to bribe kid #1 with the promise of a lego set. Kid #1 made kid #2 do the swim test first. Same as riding the bike. Kid #2 did it first and then when they took off kid #1 was willing to try. #1 is a bit spectrumy as in Autism Spectrum and yes, I know what I am talking about. Prof is spectrumy but gets really annoyed if I mention it. It's kind if hilarious watching #1 interact with Prof, it's why they had the falling out a couple of years ago, rigid interacting with rigid.
What the hell am I going to do with monogamist Mr Car and Prof? The others really don't come into it. Meet first, got to the first meeting over and done with.
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Prof: late 50s. 5+ years.
Mr Dom: early 50s . Ex BF and now good friend.
Mr Six: early 50s. FWB for 3+ years.
Mr Lime: Early 50s. Recent meet. Kinky Dom.
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Old 07-29-2018, 05:05 AM
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Is there anything more annoying than seeing people's fun OLD pics as being places and things they did with you???? I am back on POF and there is Mr Dom. He actually sent me some pics yesterday of a place he had been over the weekend and I am like WTF ( to myself ). Drives me nuts. Prof with his Bumble of pics of place I suggested we go and took pics and Mr Dom all, "Look where I went, you and the kids would love it." Yes, I know we would enjoy it because I fucking suggesting it!!!!! Come up with your own fun shit to do! One of my major strengths is researching fun stuff to do and planning how to do it and then... "Oh, look what I did."
One of my annoyances at work, is when during meetings, people suggest one of my ideas/plans and I sit there thinking ummm, we discussed this issue and this was solution I presented. I never speak up because mostly I don't care, but the OLD pics!!!!!
Mr Car is is currently sending me pics from the wedding. I told him I would have a shot of tequila for every pic he sent me which contained more than his hand. I am currently pretty buzzed, which is American for drunk. He is really hot but every pic has his mouth covered with either a hand or a glass. there is a reason for this, I just asked him if he doesn't have any teeth.
I must admit to also being a sucker for a man in a shirt. I am sooooo sick of freaking board shorts and flip flops. Prof often wears a shirt. I appreciate any shirt that has a collar and is not a t-shirt, at least once in a while.
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Mr Dom: early 50s . Ex BF and now good friend.
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Mr Lime: Early 50s. Recent meet. Kinky Dom.
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