New to poly, looking for guidance

Tcc

New member
So deep down I believe this is something I always contemplated but feared as well, coming from the norms I grew up in. I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years with my boyfriend and have recently given the green light to open our relationship. I'm still very hesitant and don't want to know a lot of details on my boyfreind's end of things, on the other hand he loves knowing all of my juicy details. I can get very jealous, while he is fine. Its kinda driving me a little crazy as I feel I have to parts of me fighting to be heard. The one part still holding onto the social norms and the other wanting to explore different people.
 
Greetings Tcc,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Polyamory and open relationships in general can be hard things to try when you've been conditioned to think strictly monogamously all your life. If you can be patient with yourself I think you will find that you can gradually grow more comfortable with this massive life change.

I can list (on request) a number of links for dealing with jealousy, but it sounds like you're mostly just wrestling with the unfamiliarity of the whole situation. I think if you take some time to explore our boards and threads, you will have less of the fear of the unknown.

Glad you could join us.
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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