sweetgrass
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Hi, I play music with a really sweet man who I hit it off with vibe-wise. He told me about his marriage the first night we met. He's been married since age of 20, is mid-30s now, and has only ever been with his wife (religious upbringing). They have 3 kids. She's been telling him she doesn't love him anymore for the last two years, and wants to open up the marriage and started researching polyamory. He wants to as well, but neither of them have acted on it.
I backed off for awhile, but then saw him again last week and told him (unplanned) that I was attracted. He said he's excited about the idea but not sure and is thinking about it. I'm going to see him tomorrow night at a songwriting group.
I think for me, what I'm thinking about is.. maybe what I actually want is to be his primary. I don't like the idea of him telling his wife about me, and getting permission and then us fooling around.
Am having trouble figuring out my heart, and am wondering if I am just not cut out for poly. I do feel a connection with him.
I backed off for awhile, but then saw him again last week and told him (unplanned) that I was attracted. He said he's excited about the idea but not sure and is thinking about it. I'm going to see him tomorrow night at a songwriting group.
I think for me, what I'm thinking about is.. maybe what I actually want is to be his primary. I don't like the idea of him telling his wife about me, and getting permission and then us fooling around.
Am having trouble figuring out my heart, and am wondering if I am just not cut out for poly. I do feel a connection with him.