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Old 10-10-2017, 01:30 AM
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Taking new relationships slowly is almost always a good idea, especially where poly is involved.

Just curious, how long do you think it will take for your house to be ready to sell? Do you have to remain in Hawaii until it sells? I mean if you're going to be in Hawaii for awhile, maybe it does make sense to make some friends while you're there? It depends on how long you're going to be there.
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Old 10-10-2017, 01:42 AM
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Taking new relationships slowly is almost always a good idea, especially where poly is involved.

Just curious, how long do you think it will take for your house to be ready to sell? Do you have to remain in Hawaii until it sells? I mean if you're going to be in Hawaii for awhile, maybe it does make sense to make some friends while you're there? It depends on how long you're going to be there.
We can rent easily in Hawaii. It will be about two years or so until the house is ready to sell. Preparing to move to Taiwan around the end of this month. I'd rather get on with my life that go through all of the effort to make friends and then moving so shortly thereafter.
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That makes sense, that way the house isn't tying you down and you can focus on your move to Taiwan.
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One of the things that makes things a bit complicated is my wife and I still love each other very much...I am so confused and it's dragging me further into depression. She even made it clear to me it's OK if I go outside the marriage for sex. She dated another woman but this woman wants full ownership over her so it didn't work. Even if my wife and I don't have sex together, we have always been very affectionate, constantly holding hands when we walk together and frequently hugging.

How does one get through this? It all seems so overwhelming...

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You of course do not have to divorce ... you have to figure out what works best for the both of you. There's also the option of divorcing, but retaining the PDA's. Like you're still very close friends. Something perhaps to discuss with her.
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Old 10-12-2017, 11:00 PM
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Yeah you're right kdt26417, it just seems so overwhelming because I'm relocating to Taiwan while having these relationship challenges. I have a sense when I get to Taiwan my wife and I will regroup for a bit.
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Old 10-12-2017, 11:03 PM
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That makes sense.
I can see how things are overwhelming at this time.
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