soulsearch
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I am in an open relationship with my partner of five years. It has been "monogamish" up until about three months ago when she approached me about making it open to date both women and men. Before opening, we entertained the idea of bringing in another woman but never acted upon it. My partner is a bisexual female and I am a straight male. In the beginning I was coming from a poly relationship and we were both seeking a single monogamous partner.
When she approached me about opening, in my opinion, we were in a bad place in our relationship. Sex wasn't really happening and our communication could have been in a better place. Over the length of five years we both had hurt each other emotionally, not in a vindictive way, and we have built walls against each other. I was hesitant to open the relationship because of this but after several discussions about how what we are doing isn't working, I agreed. I didn't see any other options short of breaking up.
We talked recently and I stated that I am not happy with the open relationship status. She says that monogamy is too confining for her to go back to. Neither of us have had another lover yet. There has been flirting, she sent some nudes to a guy, and I kissed another woman at one point. I feel that we are in limbo at this point.
Does anyone have any advice or an alternate option that I am not seeing?
When she approached me about opening, in my opinion, we were in a bad place in our relationship. Sex wasn't really happening and our communication could have been in a better place. Over the length of five years we both had hurt each other emotionally, not in a vindictive way, and we have built walls against each other. I was hesitant to open the relationship because of this but after several discussions about how what we are doing isn't working, I agreed. I didn't see any other options short of breaking up.
We talked recently and I stated that I am not happy with the open relationship status. She says that monogamy is too confining for her to go back to. Neither of us have had another lover yet. There has been flirting, she sent some nudes to a guy, and I kissed another woman at one point. I feel that we are in limbo at this point.
Does anyone have any advice or an alternate option that I am not seeing?
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