GreenAcres
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I am part of a closed Triad and it has much to do with our age for it working so far , Being in the 40 year old age area we have done things, had children and our great ; third : has a more open idea about the whole thing she admits than if she was 30 or younger, MFF.
Me and my wife have been dating for 10 years many different women and wanting a serious third , but sadly we were not successful with almost 8 ladies we dated . We found ' equal " is not a fair assumption in our years of being in triads - Fair is more important as a factor in our current - so far most successful triad and hoping the last if all goes well , We have gained much knowledge that for it to work - " There is no her time , his time - Its OUR TIME " together . That's right , we do everything together - no one feels left out and balance is acquired because no person is alone . Of course work and things we all have to do as members of society we do on our own , Jobs are jobs. We are leaning , we sleep together in the same bed , we eat together and we do not hide public affection when we go out for each other . I have a belief that being in a closet about it will also mean your not serious enough to be in it , this at first for few months is not all the time - but should be when serious, about it.
I am glad that no one-on-one time works for you. For many people, that wouldn't work, though. Me included. I've been in a successful and wonderful triad, and there was definitely time for each couple, the triad, and each individual. Then again, I wouldn't likely be involved people who had to be a part of everything all the time, whether as a triad or a duo (this was one of the things, in fact, that contributed to the end of my last triad--one member threw a hissy fit any time anything didn't include her, preferably as the focus of the attention), so it all has to do with individual wants and needs. When my then-triad partners had their alone time, I didn't feel left out or jealous any more than I would if either/both of them was out with other friends. I prefer my partners do some things without me, whether with friends, other lovers, or by themselves. Doing everything together with people would be really suffocating for me.