Welcome esedkudiln.
Wow, what a cluster of a thread. Oh well. Not quite the typical welcome, but it appears you haven't run from the boards, so congrats.
I was curious when I read your original post. I could relate to parts of it. See, I've always thought of myself as a closet swinger. My wife and I spent 9 years being happy being monogamous, but we would talk about including other people in our life (possibly an open marriage). If she had ever strayed (cheated?) on me, I potentially could've chosen to see it as an opportunity to talk about opening our marriage. I can never stand lying or cheating, so if we want to have sex outside of marriage, lets just talk about it, and have it in the open, right?
Still, I can see where your original post is going. But (as has been said before), talk to her about it. Maybe it was a one-time event, but if you're "cool with it", then maybe you two can make something more of it. Whether you want someone permanent in your lives, or just permanently open your marriage to other "possibilities", that remains up to you two.
Good luck!
Tech
Wow, what a cluster of a thread. Oh well. Not quite the typical welcome, but it appears you haven't run from the boards, so congrats.
I was curious when I read your original post. I could relate to parts of it. See, I've always thought of myself as a closet swinger. My wife and I spent 9 years being happy being monogamous, but we would talk about including other people in our life (possibly an open marriage). If she had ever strayed (cheated?) on me, I potentially could've chosen to see it as an opportunity to talk about opening our marriage. I can never stand lying or cheating, so if we want to have sex outside of marriage, lets just talk about it, and have it in the open, right?
Still, I can see where your original post is going. But (as has been said before), talk to her about it. Maybe it was a one-time event, but if you're "cool with it", then maybe you two can make something more of it. Whether you want someone permanent in your lives, or just permanently open your marriage to other "possibilities", that remains up to you two.
Good luck!
Tech