My husband and my boyfriend get together, just the two of them, about every 2 weeks. They go out for a beer at a sports bar or sometimes just sit at my bf's place and talk. For several years my husband has been very supportive of my bf with his career troubles and the terrible marital strife and divorce he has gone through. Now that the bf and I are in a sexual relationship it has become even more important for the two of them to build trust between them.
After they hang out for awhile, my husband always comes home so happy, with tears in his eyes, feeling the brotherly love between them, like neither of them has ever known. (I feel some pride in this! I have enhanced their friendship!) My husband will say, "I know why you love him. I love him too! He's a good guy!" And I feel so validated.
I love it when my husband leaves in the morning, on a day when I have plans to meet with my bf, and he says, "Have fun today. Take good care of our friend!" It feels like we are all on the same team. Sometimes he'll even ask what I'm going to wear!
About 3 weeks ago we went out to a club and went dancing. It was magical! I danced with my husband, and then my boyfriend. It was the first time I had ever danced with the bf. Wow, we had such a blast!
His ex was such an unhappy person. She would never dance with him or even smile at him, and here he was, dancing around uninhibited with me, and my husband watching on, happy for him, and for me. Woohoo. We left the club arm-in-arm, with me in the middle, all three of us laughing and silly. On the way home, my husband told me to go ahead and sit in the back seat and have some fun. So we were kissing and laughing and I kept reaching up and rubbing my husband's shoulders and... well, it was one of the best nights of my life.
I have a weekly support group I've been going to for several years, and a few people have come up to me lately and said, "I can really see a lot of growth in you." They don't have a clue, but I know in my heart what love is doing for me. I feel like I am living and loving life to the fullest. I feel like the luckiest girl around!!!