Most of our friends have defined our relationship as the one to be inspired by and nothing has ever come between us. We are the best of friends, we have amaaazing sex (still) and we are even married since one year.
He looks better than me, he is better at sex, he lives a more interesting life and he has a lot larger penis than I have (it's important since she is fascinated by large penises)
they had sex within 6 days from the first time they met. We also occasionally have threesomes where I can witness by myself that she enjoys the sex with him about 10 times more than with me... I've never seen her enjoy sex more before. She has transformed from this sexually amazing woman to a professional who USES ALL THREE HOLES with him which she rarely did with me up until he showed up. She has orgasms I've never even dreamt of was possible.
She is the love of my life. The one my whole universe rotates around. She is a one in a million and has the heart the size of a planet (and a body that is equal as good)
At the moment she at his house having sex for the second time in 7 hours
No offence, Gunnar, but the above reads a lot like a pornographic cuckold/humiliation fantasy. (Unfortunately, this forum has seen quite a few people posting about similar scenarios, with a heavy emphasis on sex and "large penises" simply to express their own sexual fantasies.)
If you're posting here in order to receive genuine advice from others about a very real and distressing problem, then this is what I'd say/ask:
Oh, I wish I was cuckold. This would have been so much easier that way.
I don't get it. Why does it sound like a story?
I can prove every single thing about it.
Gunnar, the reason I initially wondered if this were a fantasy/story - as have others on the forum after me, although I can't speak for their reasons - is because of your own use of language when describing the situation.
Your words choices are quite hyperbolic/exaggerated: you alternately appear to idealise your wife's attributes, the love you share, and the sex you have with her... then follow it up with phrases that
devalue and sexually objectify her and her body. (AND her other partner.)
See the sentences in BOLD, above. Especially the part about "all three holes" and the other guy's enormous penis. This is porny talk, and not an especially respectful or mature way to discuss issues you're having in your marriage, IMHO.
Nevertheless, I put these reservations aside and offered you serious advice, as have a number of other posters here. If everything is as you say, please HEED the advice given pertaining to the fact that you do not have to agree to a relationship or lifestyle that makes you uncomfortable and offers you little in the way of rights or security for you as an individual, a marriage partner, and a father.
Hi Gunnar, I'm sorry that you have gotten sarcastic/rude replies. You have to understand that people often use this forum for fantasy or story writing purposes and some people have been burned by it enough to react poorly.
That being said your story does read like a well, story.
Because it's hard to believe that a man who isn't a cuck to some extent would allow all of this to happen to him without a fight. You tell it like you have no choice while you do, everyone does.
It does read like a story though. I don't want to be suspicious on this forum, but I can't help it after falling pray to the poster with sister-incest and (the same?) one converting to a religious sect to be the third wife and all these other fairy-tales.
Exactly. And the sister-incest one was only a recent one of MANY similar, sex-oriented fantasies we've had to wade through here, expend vast amounts of energy on... only to figure out/call out the person concerned and watch them disappear into the sunset.
As I recall, most of the fantasists/writers appear to be guys ("guys") purporting to be undergoing some form of sexual humiliation at the hands of their wives and another, "better" new man. So yeah, this is where the suspicion definitely springs from.
Now... back to business again.
it sounds like you had occasional mmf threesomes but not that your wife was allowed to go out and fuck someone without permission so how are you not angry that she essentially cheated on you? Did you take the time to process that?
Her falling "inlove" does not excuse her falling onto his bigger dick without talking to you about it first.
There are no people out there who are better then other men in virtually every aspect. .
Gunnar, it's difficult for us to tell if your wife began her relationship with Farmer ethically or not, considering you two WERE "open" and DID willingly engage in sex with others - you say only/mainly in each other's presence.
Well... you were there in that sauna when your wife and Farmer started talking. I assume you knew they were flirting and were initially okay with that. Perhaps you wanted to include him in your once-a-year threesomes/group sex activity - that you were clearly alright with. You say you're not a cuck, but for sure this is kinda "hot-wife" scenario, you must agree with that.
The (unforeseen, from your POV) problem with this type of behaviour, as you're finding out, is you CANNOT consent to such activity and expect your partner to NEVER develop any kind of feelings for the other person. For many people, women especially (though I generalise), sexual intimacy is just that: intimate. It may or may not lead to "love", but the possibility is almost always on the cards.
Now you're stuck with the results of your decision to live this lifestyle - i.e. non-monogamy/occasional group sex/swinging, whatever you want to call it.
I feel for the position you've been put in, but you DO have some say-so regarding how you choose to participate, going forward.