question....how to split time??

I live with my husband and my boyfriend (who are both straight...and best friends). We have one bedroom - whoever wants to sleep, sleeps. Most of our time is spent with whomever is home. If anyone wants one-on-one time, they ASK for it.

I, as the hinge of our Vee, used to stress about making sure everything was "equal" - until I learned/was taught that "equal"=/="fair". If everyone's needs are being met, then the exact time division is not important.

I need LOTS of alone/quiet time...they don't. They go out and socialize without me (MY choice). Somehow, it all works out fine. Things get so much easier when the NRE wears off and people are back to being "themselves" again...

JaneQ
 
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