Bunnielight
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Red flag!!! Why should he be anxious and fearful about another relationship of yours? He is blaming his feelings on something that has nothing to do with him! You have every right to have as much love and loving relationships in your life as you want. And why is she telling you about it? That is not nice of her and seems manipulative.
Be careful - it's not your job to alleviate his anxiety and fear, nor to prop him up; it's his job to deal with his own insecurities and you do not owe him anything. Watch out for any kind of guilt-tripping, manipulation, or pressure from him. I'm not saying he'd do it consciously, but he does seem like he needs to get a grip. Ugh, I'd be vigilant in maintaining my personal boundaries if I were you.
Pixie was discussing these things more out of concern for Dean. She and I are very close and she knows that I care deeply for him and want to know what's going on. She knows he won't come to me with these anxieties for the exact reasons you mentioned: they are his to work through.
When I confronted him about this he was very vague and seemed to have already gotten past whatever anxieties he was feeling. I brought it up again on our date on Sunday and it seems like something that he is easier able to work through than what is assumed. He told me he feels like they may be a little too sensitive about his anxiety. When Cuba was mentioned, he told me he actually thought we had already slept together because of the nature of our relationship and it really doesn't bother him so long as Cuba is okay.
And Cuba's concern is for Dean because they have never met before (Cuba is very close with Zed so he is aware of his comfort).
I am really not worried about manipulation from Pixie as it seems she mainly comes to me when she wants to share what's going on. We really just all care about each other and want to share even the struggles.