summerrhiannon
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Scott and I have been married 9 years. I introduced him to the idea of polyamory because I saw my parents do it. My parents had a live-in girlfriend for 5 years when I was younger. My dad explained that he had enough love for me and my sisters, just like he had enough love for my mother and his girlfriend. It made sense to me.
Scott and I started with only sexual adventures with other people, primarily via threesomes. A few years after we were married, we played with the idea of having a girlfriend with a friend of mine, Jessie. She moved in for a couple months, mainly because she had no place else to live and no money. Unfortunately, I wasn't attracted to her sexually and she and my husband ended up hating each other after about a month.
Next, Scott met a woman, Julie through a mutual friend. It wasn't an ideal situation because she was married and cheating. She said she planned to divorce her husband eventually and that they weren't really intimate. She and Scott started sleeping together on a regular basis. A couple months later, they were passionately in love with each other. They all but cut me out of the relationship. I was always feeling hurt and excluded. She told him she was jealous about his relationship with me, so he paid no attention to me around her. He even told her he didn't love me. It did a lot of damage to my relationship with Scott. Scott never tried to divorce me because afterall, she was still married. After 2 years and lots of drama, the relationship with Julie ended.
Scott was desperate after Julie left to find another girlfriend. He became friends with his yoga teacher, Danielle. I didn't care for her and told him I think we needed some time just to heal our relationship. He started seeing her behind my back and lying to me. A few months later, he said he wanted a divorce. We decided to continue to live together and make a schedule for sharing the house. That went on for about 6 months and was very painful. Finally, I decided I needed to move out. The day I was planning to put down a deposit on an apartment, he started taking Adderall for adult ADD. It allowed him to finally have a real conversation with me and be honest. I found out the truth about the affair and that he wanted to end it with her and fix things with me.
About a year later, things were going very well in our marriage. I didn't think we could ever try poly again. Then, I met a beautiful Ukranian woman named Irina. She is 25 (I'm 37 and Scott is 32). She had never even considered poly or even heard of it. She just knew she loved hanging out with me and Scott. We became very close rather quickly. She has been living with us for a little over a month now and I can't believe how well it is all working! I don't feel threatened or jealous in any way. She is so good with my children and is helping me enforce the rules. She gives me time alone with Scott and doesn't try to monopolize him the way Julie did.
I love having Irina in our house. I hope she stays forever. The only problem I have is that I am very sexually attracted her, but she is only experimental where it comes to women. She is somewhat sexually inexperienced since her last relationship was 8 years with her boyfriend in the Ukraine. She will kiss me, but seems awkward if I try to do anything more. I hope she will open up in time. In the mean time, I'm very happy and having a blast!
Scott and I started with only sexual adventures with other people, primarily via threesomes. A few years after we were married, we played with the idea of having a girlfriend with a friend of mine, Jessie. She moved in for a couple months, mainly because she had no place else to live and no money. Unfortunately, I wasn't attracted to her sexually and she and my husband ended up hating each other after about a month.
Next, Scott met a woman, Julie through a mutual friend. It wasn't an ideal situation because she was married and cheating. She said she planned to divorce her husband eventually and that they weren't really intimate. She and Scott started sleeping together on a regular basis. A couple months later, they were passionately in love with each other. They all but cut me out of the relationship. I was always feeling hurt and excluded. She told him she was jealous about his relationship with me, so he paid no attention to me around her. He even told her he didn't love me. It did a lot of damage to my relationship with Scott. Scott never tried to divorce me because afterall, she was still married. After 2 years and lots of drama, the relationship with Julie ended.
Scott was desperate after Julie left to find another girlfriend. He became friends with his yoga teacher, Danielle. I didn't care for her and told him I think we needed some time just to heal our relationship. He started seeing her behind my back and lying to me. A few months later, he said he wanted a divorce. We decided to continue to live together and make a schedule for sharing the house. That went on for about 6 months and was very painful. Finally, I decided I needed to move out. The day I was planning to put down a deposit on an apartment, he started taking Adderall for adult ADD. It allowed him to finally have a real conversation with me and be honest. I found out the truth about the affair and that he wanted to end it with her and fix things with me.
About a year later, things were going very well in our marriage. I didn't think we could ever try poly again. Then, I met a beautiful Ukranian woman named Irina. She is 25 (I'm 37 and Scott is 32). She had never even considered poly or even heard of it. She just knew she loved hanging out with me and Scott. We became very close rather quickly. She has been living with us for a little over a month now and I can't believe how well it is all working! I don't feel threatened or jealous in any way. She is so good with my children and is helping me enforce the rules. She gives me time alone with Scott and doesn't try to monopolize him the way Julie did.
I love having Irina in our house. I hope she stays forever. The only problem I have is that I am very sexually attracted her, but she is only experimental where it comes to women. She is somewhat sexually inexperienced since her last relationship was 8 years with her boyfriend in the Ukraine. She will kiss me, but seems awkward if I try to do anything more. I hope she will open up in time. In the mean time, I'm very happy and having a blast!