I have been in poly relationships for about 4 years now, but this is my first time getting in touch with any poly community. When I first started, I didn't realize it was a thing. All I knew was that I had a husband who wanted to sleep around, and I was strangely okay with it. After much discussion, we determined that it would be okay if we tried an open relationship.
We had friends who were in an open relationship, who were willing to explore that idea, and so we invited them over and tried "swinging". From that point on, I knew that monogamy wasn't for me. Unfortunately, my husband and I had a falling out. He didn't want to work, or take care of our two kids, and was gradually becoming more and more distant, and I'd had enough. Meanwhile, he found a girlfriend who didn't care if he did nothing, and I became more a part of our friend's relationship, developing strong feelings for both of them.
I've had a lot of turbulence over the past few years. I've been sick to the point of almost death due to some bad anti-seizure meds, had to give up my kids to my husband, who treated us all badly, and moved them around at a whim (I chose homelessness to stay close to them, and have only once again regained stability with my two kids), lost and found love.
I am now, once again in an open relationship with a man, and we're only passively looking for a girlfriend (we're still enjoying a sort of honeymoon phase on our own), as well as a romantic relationship I've had on and off and now maintain long-distance with my best friend/ "wife", and I couldn't be happier. I love the town I landed in pretty much by chance, and am hoping to spend the rest of my life here with my new family, plus whoever we all decide to add to the mix.
We had friends who were in an open relationship, who were willing to explore that idea, and so we invited them over and tried "swinging". From that point on, I knew that monogamy wasn't for me. Unfortunately, my husband and I had a falling out. He didn't want to work, or take care of our two kids, and was gradually becoming more and more distant, and I'd had enough. Meanwhile, he found a girlfriend who didn't care if he did nothing, and I became more a part of our friend's relationship, developing strong feelings for both of them.
I've had a lot of turbulence over the past few years. I've been sick to the point of almost death due to some bad anti-seizure meds, had to give up my kids to my husband, who treated us all badly, and moved them around at a whim (I chose homelessness to stay close to them, and have only once again regained stability with my two kids), lost and found love.
I am now, once again in an open relationship with a man, and we're only passively looking for a girlfriend (we're still enjoying a sort of honeymoon phase on our own), as well as a romantic relationship I've had on and off and now maintain long-distance with my best friend/ "wife", and I couldn't be happier. I love the town I landed in pretty much by chance, and am hoping to spend the rest of my life here with my new family, plus whoever we all decide to add to the mix.