deponty
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My wife and I have issues. We've been married 18 years and have two children whom we adore. She is monogamous, and I am not. In our case (and I'm sure each one is different) I have life-long deep seated abandonment issues. I simply want to feel secure and connected, but I'm terrified of putting that much faith and trust in one person, especially after that person sank into a deep depression that I had no hope of fixing. She's MUCH better now, but I'm afraid that I am not. It took me years to realize this, but I've come to believe and accept that it's true. All my wife wants is to feel secure and connected to me, and that's very difficult for her if I'm looking outside our marriage for that same security and connection that we both need.
We've decided that divorce is a non-starter. We love each other very much, and we love our life together too much to not figure this out. We don't have the answer, but we are committed to finding one together. In my opinion, that's a very positive first step. I would sincerely appreciate advice on the steps that come after that.
Thank you!
We've decided that divorce is a non-starter. We love each other very much, and we love our life together too much to not figure this out. We don't have the answer, but we are committed to finding one together. In my opinion, that's a very positive first step. I would sincerely appreciate advice on the steps that come after that.
Thank you!