Your most recent OKC messages. post em here!

Depends whether they stick with "hookups only" in their searches, I suppose.
 
I guess so, but after exchanging many messages where they mention things from my profile, it seems weird to imagine they wouldn't notice the part about not being interested in any form of casual sex.
 
Sometimes I wonder if people don't just see what they wanna see ... ya know?
 
Pshhhh ... you got that right.
 
Just got this one, from a 61 year old man, first message apropos of nothing:

Strip poker or strip tease?

You
- Strip poker o
- Strip tease o
- Strip me yourself o

Him
- Strip poker o
- Strip tease o
- Strip me yourself o

And men wonder why no one responds to their messages?
 
lol. Another guy today messaged me to tell me she wants to be my next lover. I'm not even listed as available on OK Cupid.
 
"I keep looking at your profile and then feeling bummed you guys aren't closer."

My reply: "Aww don't feel bummed. Let's work out a date to meet up anyway, and then go from there. --:)"

No answer.
 
Is there some kind of secret code you have to speak on OKCupid? I've messaged people with normal, every day conversation type of messages that seemed respectful and 9/10 times I get no response at all. :confused:
 
Aha ... I thought I was the only one.
 
No, it's hit or miss. Most of my messages never get a response. I try not to think about it too much.
 
"Apart from being sexy, what do you do for a living?"

Wait...can I make a living off that?
 
Well, besides porn and prostitution, there's modeling. Of course all three of those career choices tend to define "sexy" very narrowly ...

... and if you're wondering if you can just lounge around the house, receiving a weekly paycheck in the mail "for being so damned sexy" ... you're right, that's probably not gonna happen. :rolleyes:
 
Well, besides porn and prostitution, there's modeling. Of course all three of those career choices tend to define "sexy" very narrowly ...

... and if you're wondering if you can just lounge around the house, receiving a weekly paycheck in the mail "for being so damned sexy" ... you're right, that's probably not gonna happen. :rolleyes:

I'm nowhere near sexy enough to make a living from any of those things. Guess it's good I've got a couple of real jobs. ;) Oh, and this guy lives in Turkey. Seems I get a lot of messages from guys in Turkey. What's up with that?
 
Apparently Turkey is the hot place for hot guys to live nowadays. :)
 
OKsee?

so every time i see OKC it trips me up. i live in OKC. (oklahoma city)..

moving on - we were discussing making an OKCupid poly profile for us... the idea of online dating is still too odd though. the odds of things happening naturally for us sans okcupid (or the ilk) are probably low - but they have happened twice in the last couple years without any of that. i, at least, am not a "dater". always just met people and developed relationships with them. sometimes, romantically. usually not. just liked the way things would form on their own, without any preconceived idea of where it should head. maybe that's why i don't like dating sites. it presumes where the contact should go, and demands that it does so.

the good things happen when they happen.

maybe i am wrong though. what have other peoples experiences been like?

should we bite the bullet and go for it?
 
MY OKC messages from the last few days:

Hello how are you? My name is X and I am a 37 year old who is fairly new on here. I saw you profile and pic and you look very sexy! Was seeing if you would like to talk?

Yeah, because my profile leads him to believe all I want is sex chat with a guy who lives 1000 miles away.

Oh my what a gorgeous woman! How are you doing today?

Because all I am is my looks. And he lives even further away than the first guy.

Good Evening

I just had to tell you I loved your smile, It gave me a huge smile when I saw it!

How are you?

X

He got a response from me, "I am fine, you? Thanks for the compliment," because at least he is from my state and made a specific comment, instead of just "gorgeous" or "sexy."

good morning

This message, 2 words, no caps, no punctuation, tells me someone is posting one handed and wants some woman, any woman, to help him cum.
 
I've disabled my OKC account for now. Dating is not where I need to be focusing my energy now. Plus I wasn't getting messages from interesting people. Just boring or stupid ones. So taking a break! Feels good.

On my Fetlife account, I've been getting some messages from men who want me to peg them. It's so frustrating. They weren't unattractive. But they only asked about pegging. Nothing about me, what I want, nothing on their other interests, nothing about mine - nothing about anything else. I'm not a 'Fetish Delivery System' - a term coined by some women doms annoyed by this behavior from (almost always) men - so I did not respond. But, you know, if they had opened with an actual conversation, I would have probably responded.
 
Last edited:
so every time i see OKC it trips me up. i live in OKC. (oklahoma city)..

moving on - we were discussing making an OKCupid poly profile for us... the idea of online dating is still too odd though. the odds of things happening naturally for us sans okcupid (or the ilk) are probably low - but they have happened twice in the last couple years without any of that. i, at least, am not a "dater". always just met people and developed relationships with them. sometimes, romantically. usually not. just liked the way things would form on their own, without any preconceived idea of where it should head. maybe that's why i don't like dating sites. it presumes where the contact should go, and demands that it does so.

the good things happen when they happen.

maybe i am wrong though. what have other peoples experiences been like?

should we bite the bullet and go for it?

I don't think you'll get a good answer to that here, since you and your... wife(?) want to date as a COUPLE. Unicorn hunt in other words. Now, if you (singular) made a profile, and your wife did, and you both linked to each other, that you open to each dating others one on one, OR hope to find a woman you are both compatible with, you might have more luck. Here, or on OKC.

Unicorn hunters tend to attract needy women with lots of baggage and issues...

But as people who wish to just make friends and see where it goes, if you word your profiles right, you might make friends. I've developed platonic friendships on OKC and so have others. Just don't bring up sex, and poly fidelity, right away!
 
Last edited:
Back
Top