Do any of you have this type of situation?
My girlfriend deeply loves me. (She lives with us.)
My husband deeply loves me.
My girlfriend wants to be close to my husband and really wants to be friends with him.
My husband says he loves her heart and soul, and that she is a good friend who could become even closer as time goes on, but if it wasn't for our situation and my deep love for her, he probably never would have been friends with her.
My husband says he wants to have her join our family for the long haul, but seems to get jealous easily.
On top of all of this, we have had some sexual experiences: of course, me with my husband, me with her, me with both of them, but never the two of them alone.
To me, this seems a little strange, in the light of poly, since I am madly in love with both of them and they with me, but between the two of them they are just friends who are trying to build more, just for my sake. At least, that's how that seems. My girlfriend says she wants the deeper friendship with my husband, but my husband has never said that about her. He is one of those people who, once he makes a friend, that person is a friend for life, and he stays in touch with for a long time. Me, not so much.
Let me know if any of you have had a similar situation, OR, let me know what you think of this. Thanks for the advice. I am new to all this and just have so many questions. Sorry for the long post.
My girlfriend deeply loves me. (She lives with us.)
My husband deeply loves me.
My girlfriend wants to be close to my husband and really wants to be friends with him.
My husband says he loves her heart and soul, and that she is a good friend who could become even closer as time goes on, but if it wasn't for our situation and my deep love for her, he probably never would have been friends with her.
My husband says he wants to have her join our family for the long haul, but seems to get jealous easily.
On top of all of this, we have had some sexual experiences: of course, me with my husband, me with her, me with both of them, but never the two of them alone.
To me, this seems a little strange, in the light of poly, since I am madly in love with both of them and they with me, but between the two of them they are just friends who are trying to build more, just for my sake. At least, that's how that seems. My girlfriend says she wants the deeper friendship with my husband, but my husband has never said that about her. He is one of those people who, once he makes a friend, that person is a friend for life, and he stays in touch with for a long time. Me, not so much.
Let me know if any of you have had a similar situation, OR, let me know what you think of this. Thanks for the advice. I am new to all this and just have so many questions. Sorry for the long post.