I don't see it as a totally false divide. I certainly experience a level of divide even internally. I run in two social circles and see a level of divide as well. It is losely based on the identity of one being mono and the other being poly. They overlap but it is a struggle at times. But I'm out of time and have to "work" jeesh...
Later
There is a divide. It does periodically overlap-true. Just like GENERALLY "women are weaker in physical strength then men" however-there ARE women who are stronger and there ARE men who are weaker.
There ARE mono-people who are VERY open-minded and accepting and there are poly-people who are VERY closed-minded and judgmental...
But there is CERTAINLY a GENERAL COMMON DIVIDE
between the two-what their priorities in relationship are, what they consider acceptable, how they view the information...
I really don't believe that the issue here is that Mono is perpetuating a lie. I think it's that he's trying to share with us pitfalls we need to watch for when trying to open up our lives to other mono people. We may find mono people who don't bring with them these pitfalls-but we are likely to find ourselves struggling with these pitfalls-AND of all the ridiculous things I've encountered-WE ALL KNOW THAT.
So instead of arguing if ALL mono people are that way or not-which I think we've ALL (Mono included) agreed on (not going to go back and find that post where he made a distinction)-why don't we answer MORE DEEPLY his question (again not quoted) about HOW we traverse the divide to create a more harmonious world between ALL POLY AND ALL MONO PEOPLE?
That would be a great and interesting conversation.
However enjoyable it is and reassuring it is to see you (ceoli, ygirl, mono and others whose names keep evading me, i'm sorry) finally getting to some common ground. It's equally disappointing to see continued attacks on Mono when he's OBVIOUSLY trying VERY hard to work WITH all of us-and not against us.
AS IF HE'S PREJUDICED AGAINST HIMSELF??? Let's work PRODUCTIVELY towards solutions. If you are too angry, hostile and pissy to be friendly in your writing (while still standing by your beliefs Ceoli
we all should do that) then take a break and come back when you CAN be productive. Becuase attacking when it's OBVIOUSLY an attack-is not productive and is not making any useful point to the person you are writing to.