Hi. My wife and I are new to poly. I am 34 and my wife is 32. We discovered that we like the idea of poly from that Married and Dating show on Showtime. While the show seemed to border of soft porn, it at least opened up our eyes to what we've been feeling for a few years. We've since read a plethora of poly info and talked about various aspects of it and it seems like that's what we want to do. As such, I just want to make sure that I am poly for the right reasons...or just not poly at all.
For many years I've always thought that it seemed weird in our society to pick one person to be with for the rest of your lives. Part of this stems from the fact that I was married previously for 10 years but always wondered why it's not ok to explore relationships outside of marriage. At that time though, I was heavily guided by religion and church. While I'm not here to bash organized religion, I would only like to say that once I figured out that I need to make my own decisions in life, that anything was possible. So, I got divorced because we just weren't right for each other. It was an amicable agreement so we parted on good terms. As a side note, I'm a very open and honest person (sometimes to a fault) and I'm a "man of my word". I never cheated. Then, I met my current wife and we are great for each other. While we are polar opposites, we definitely agree that poly seems right. I suppose my point is: I relish the idea of exploring other relationships with other women. My wife feels the same way...she's bisexual or at least wants to be. I feel as though mankind is hardwired to not be bound to one person, though it certainly works for many. And this is not about sex per se though it's a component of romantic relationships, but rather, it's about the relationship itself. Our end goal is to form a triad but those are so darned hard to find. It seems easier to date other open people and see where things go.
Does this sound like I'm on the right track in poly? We want to give it a shot and continue to educate ourselves.
For many years I've always thought that it seemed weird in our society to pick one person to be with for the rest of your lives. Part of this stems from the fact that I was married previously for 10 years but always wondered why it's not ok to explore relationships outside of marriage. At that time though, I was heavily guided by religion and church. While I'm not here to bash organized religion, I would only like to say that once I figured out that I need to make my own decisions in life, that anything was possible. So, I got divorced because we just weren't right for each other. It was an amicable agreement so we parted on good terms. As a side note, I'm a very open and honest person (sometimes to a fault) and I'm a "man of my word". I never cheated. Then, I met my current wife and we are great for each other. While we are polar opposites, we definitely agree that poly seems right. I suppose my point is: I relish the idea of exploring other relationships with other women. My wife feels the same way...she's bisexual or at least wants to be. I feel as though mankind is hardwired to not be bound to one person, though it certainly works for many. And this is not about sex per se though it's a component of romantic relationships, but rather, it's about the relationship itself. Our end goal is to form a triad but those are so darned hard to find. It seems easier to date other open people and see where things go.
Does this sound like I'm on the right track in poly? We want to give it a shot and continue to educate ourselves.