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Old 08-16-2016, 11:43 PM
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Your experience is laudable, but swinging is NOT in any way a cure-all fix for jealousy.

Swinging often explicitly includes emotional distancing (no "love feelings" allowed), prohibitions on any contact (including sociable & public) outside the date/party, & a degree of anonymity.

We see plenty of people show up here with major problems in the transition from "fun times" to "relationship."
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Old 08-17-2016, 05:32 PM
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For shure nothing works for everybody.
Each person is a world for it''s own.
But swinging is a very large and multiform world. You are right, basics - especially at start - are no social involvement. Ok. We generally are very strict on this, to avoid problems, one can never know.
But at least here in Italy many couples get social after some time, be develloped a nice friendship with some too.
But one thing is correct: swinging is fun, playing.
Poly is commitment and love. Two different things. Can live together in the same way as swinging and mono.

What I just want to say is as said by kdt26417: it may in some special cases help to address the problem of jealousy.
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Old 08-17-2016, 06:39 PM
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@ CGM ... and it worked in at least one case: yours.
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Old 08-19-2016, 06:15 PM
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Yes, for now. We are working on it, as I said, we are together one year now and only future will tell.
Things like how to manage practical life, how to relate to others and so on are now a big priority, also because none of us has any experience.
For example how to explain that on the holiday pictures we are always together. Very simple, but a problem.
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Old 08-20-2016, 01:44 AM
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Yeah, I can see how that would be challenging.
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