Bisexual, Pansexual, Polysexual...is it all semantics?

Neither one was hot (Madonna guarantees I stay limp); neither one was disgusting.

Were the first to involve other women--women whom I find attractive--that one could be hot.

OK so you think 2 women kissing, if both are hot, is hot.

The other would still garner a "meh."

Meh, meaning, it's not a turn on? But do you think its so disgusting it should never been seen? 2 gay guys on the street, a little PDA, worse than het or lesbian PSA?
 
Thanks for being honest, Mono! And now you can, if you wish, explore why you think men shouldnt be intimate w each other.

I certainly do not think they should not be intimate with each other. You asked which pictures were hot. I don't think any of them are disgusting at all. I merely admitted that it is easier for me to watch men engage in sexual acts other than kissing.
 
Because I end up watching TV on Fridays sometimes, and at home we have two channels that dedicate themselves to soft core porn on Friday nights (one disguised them as Art, the other as Documentaries) I drop this little tidbit into the mix:

According to one of the shows disguised as a Documentary, they discussed the relationship between imagry of sexual acts, such as the pics kindly provided earlier in the thread, and the differences in physical response (Ie: turned on, or not) between the subjects corrilated by the participant physical Gender and stated Orientation.

(I am not going to speculate about the validity of the study, methodology etc... it was a Doc, not a paper. I am also not going to address definitions of Gender or orientation used...it was a Doc, not a paper)

The results were as follows:

Almost all females were physically turned on by any of the acts...regardless of their own orientation, and regardless of the subjects in the pictures. It didn't matter if the pic was MM, MF, FF, MFM...etc...didn't mattter that the viewer was Hetero, Homo, Bi...they responded to them all.

The greater majority of males...were phyically responsive only when at least one subject in the pic matched with their orientation. Hetero did not respond to MM, Homo did not respond to FF.


Enjoy.
 
I think that I've always been bisexual. I didn't know the term as a young child-but was attracted to both boys and girls. As a young woman I recognized that I "got wet" if someone who "really did it for me" walked by of either sex or god forbid actually paid attention to me.

I was raised in a strict religious environment that did not accept such a thing-but it didn't seem to stop my hormones from being conscious and aware of both sexes.

I tend towards believing that everyone is somewhere on a line
Attracted to:
MEN__________________________Both_________________________WOMEN

I think that we are so ingrained in our ideas of right and wrong in society that we forget that it's not an "all or nothing" reality in the world.
My sister identifies as straight. She's never been with another woman and the only one she's openly acknowledged "got her motor humming" to consider was Tyra Banks. But OBVIOUSLY that ONE woman "got her motor humming, so she wasn't stuck completely to the left of my line...

My husband has never felt attraction or gotten his motor running over another man, so maybe he is stuck all the way to the right. I flip flopwith a slight leaning towards the women side in attraction, but have acted more on the side of men.....
 
I certainly do not think they should not be intimate with each other. You asked which pictures were hot. I don't think any of them are disgusting at all. I merely admitted that it is easier for me to watch men engage in sexual acts other than kissing.

Oh sorry. I think I should have chosen my words better. I didnt mean which was a turn on. Of course, 2 men kissing wouldnt necc be a turn on to a man who IDs as straight. I meant, which image seems more acceptable, considered arousing in general. Do the male images seem more shocking, or abnormal?

I know some ppl here are quite queer friendly. This is more a question for GroundedSpirits OP.
 
The greater majority of males...were phyically responsive only when at least one subject in the pic matched with their orientation. Hetero did not respond to MM, Homo did not respond to FF.


Enjoy.


But I know Ive seen studies where the most homophobic men (who claimed to be straight) registered most arousal at gay male porn.
 
we are all actually bisexual and simply alot of us either never meet the right person to bring out those feelings or we pay too much attention to the mean spirited ways of the world looking down on same sex partners
I honestly don't agree with this (that we're all bisexual). I am not bi. I have no problems with bi in any form - male or female. I have watched and read porn from both perspectives and found it arousing.

But for me - I have no interest in having sex with another woman. It just doesn't float my boat or light my candle or any of those things. :)

That's not to say that I haven't ever loved another woman or had a crush on another woman, but I've never been sexually attracted to another woman. And I don't think that's because I repress ir or because I haven't met the right person.

If one can be "wired" mono, I suspect one can be "wired" hetero. :) Of course I guess that's another discussion. And all of that is completely separate from finding bi- "disgusting" - which I don't.
 
Meh, meaning, it's not a turn on? But do you think its so disgusting it should never been seen? 2 gay guys on the street, a little PDA, worse than het or lesbian PSA?

Not a turn on. I don't find anything disgusting about it.

PDA on the street, whether hetero or homo, isn't anything that warrants much attention, unless they're damn near humping in public. Then my reaction is the same: "Get a room." I might want to watch them in that room if it's a hot female pair (or threesome or whatever).

To provide some additional info, the porn I most watch is female masturbation videos. The hottest video I've ever watched involved two hermaphrodites, each of whom identified (or at least presented) as female.
 
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Maybe we're not all bisexual. But I often think it's best to think that we're all on a bi-sexual spectrum -- rather than thinking that we're either of three simple kinds: het-, bi-, or gay-as-a-goose.

Sure, some folks are way out on either end, or smack-dab in the middle. But it's a spectrum, after all. More analogue than digital.
 
I honestly don't agree with this (that we're all bisexual). I am not bi. I have no problems with bi in any form - male or female. I have watched and read porn from both perspectives and found it arousing.

But for me - I have no interest in having sex with another woman. It just doesn't float my boat or light my candle or any of those things. :)

That's not to say that I haven't ever loved another woman or had a crush on another woman, but I've never been sexually attracted to another woman. And I don't think that's because I repress ir or because I haven't met the right person.

If one can be "wired" mono, I suspect one can be "wired" hetero. :) Of course I guess that's another discussion. And all of that is completely separate from finding bi- "disgusting" - which I don't.

I really am honestly curious casue I truly don't understand, so please don't take this offensively, but how do you love someone without being attracted to them? at least, romantically. I understand family wise, but romantically? i don't get how to love someone without being physically attracted to them.

i know some woman who identify themselves as bi-emotional, but not bi-sexual and this always confuses me. thats not to say that lovign someone should be just physical, but I really don't get how those strong of feelings develop for someone if your not even attracted to them. would you care to share more of loving another woman without the physical? or would anyone care to share loving a same sex person to yourself without a physical attraction? i'm really not trying to be a boob, just see if someone can help me understand.
 
I really am honestly curious casue I truly don't understand, so please don't take this offensively, but how do you love someone without being attracted to them? at least, romantically. I understand family wise, but romantically? i don't get how to love someone without being physically attracted to them.
I'm not offended. We all have different perspectives and views. I just don't know how to explain it, other than just that. :)

I love my best friend with all my heart and I'd do anything for her. She has been my rock for many many many years. But I have no interest in having sex with her (and I don't think she does with me - but the subject has never come up! :D ).

I have had women I have had crushes on, as I've said, but in the emotional "she makes me happy to talk to and see" sense - very much in the NRE "giddy to be around them" sense. But there is no sense of physical arousal when I think about the possibility of sex.

I also know women who I can say from a purely objective perspective are sexy and attractive and so forth ... but while I find them attractive, I am not aroused by them.
 
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All I know is this...: Some people can form really intense loving bonds which are in most ways quite "romantic," but which don't involve sexual desire. I'd not want to discount these experiences. I think they are very real.
 
I'm "bi". Sometimes, with persons of either sex, I am not sexually attracted ... but I really want to be close, intimate ... expressive... even passionate hugging greetings and farewells. But without sexual desire.

Some of my thoughtful friends insist that "eros" doesn't boil down to sexual desire in all cases. Passionate love isn't always sexual, in other words.
 
I think I see what your both saying, and I found another thread about it ...

Which thread is that? Maybe it's worth continuing the discussion over there?

(YGirl would be pleased if we didn't start another already existing thread ... again. :p)
 
Oh sorry. I think I should have chosen my words better. I didnt mean which was a turn on. Of course, 2 men kissing wouldnt necc be a turn on to a man who IDs as straight. I meant, which image seems more acceptable, considered arousing in general. Do the male images seem more shocking, or abnormal?

I know some ppl here are quite queer friendly. This is more a question for GroundedSpirits OP.

I admit it. The women kissing is much more appealing to me. Yes the male images are more shocking...simply because it's not what I want and of course social conditioning. There were 1300 kids in my high school and only two that identified as gay males the entire time. I had very little exposure during some very influential times of my life.
 
Ditto on the OKC thing. It's annoying.

As for the pics-I liked the very first one best. Primarily because it seemed more passionate and emotional....
 
Most women I have dated were bisexual or at least said they wanted to be with another woman. So that is my personal anecdotal data.

From studies, I lean more to the idea that men and women fall somewhere on the bisexual scale. I think a big difference is that society is more encouraging of women being with women than with men being with men. So they don't feel as much pressure to act more heterosexual than men do. Plus it seems to be a fad for two women to make out to turn guys on. (While I would like to believe they want each other, I think many cases are just to tease guys.)

Maybe when society becomes less male homophobic, we will see more bisexual men pubically. I have a gut feeling that basic bisexuality is probably equal in both genders.

I tend to agree with this whole post. Not sure what i could functionally add-just very well fits my thoughts. :)
 
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