I’ve read a bunch of books about polyamory and open relationships and have not found answers to my unique situation. My partner of many years is currently incarcerated and will be for another two years. He had been sober for a period of time, relapsed on drugs, and stole a bunch of things… If you were wondering why he’s in prison. He has always been interested in open relationships, but I was always opposed to the idea. Now that he is incarcerated I am open to the idea of sleeping with/dating other people. I am not sure how to make him feel special or important to me when I cannot see him on a regular basis. We talk on the phone almost daily. He has brought up a bunch of different ideas, but I don’t like any of them. For example, he suggested not sleeping at anyone’s house or not having more than three dates per month with the same person. I know he is afraid that I am going to leave him for someone else. Although I agree that this is possible and there are never any guarantees in relationships, I have loved him for many years and don’t imagine spending my life with anyone else. How can I make him feel secure in our relationship while also being able to experience the things that I want to experience over the next two years?