Derbylicious
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What does that look like? Sailors have twisted minds. "Stink eye" doesn't sound so bad to me.
I should have know you would go there, living with a sailor and all!
What does that look like? Sailors have twisted minds. "Stink eye" doesn't sound so bad to me.
I should have know you would go there. Living with a sailor and all!
I didn't go there..you made me
Tell them you are dating a mono man and that one of the boundaries you have set up with him is no more men and they'll begrudgingly disband all attempts.
It actually kind of looks like Mono
Almost a year to the day Redpepper, Polynerdist, thier son and me went camping with a family that is dear to us all. Much has changed in the year. I felt out of place and sort of like a hindrance to them all bonding on that first camping trip. We have all hung out a lot since then and those feelings had almost all but disapeared.
Roly Poly spent the first night with us which gave me a great opportunity to tease her and Polynerdist. (i'm immune to the "look who's got a girlfriend" taunts..part of my mono super powers) Redpepper and I slept like babies thanks to the better part of a bottle of whiskey while Polynerdist and Roly Poly waged war with invading mice all night
This growing collection of friends and lovers is the community I feel comfortable with. It's a much slower process to build but has an air of depth, maturity and sustainability that numbers could never replace for me.
I'm a pretty happy mono guy with an incredibly special poly family
It's very encouraging to hear this Mono.
Next time, we're having the whiskey and you can deal with the raccoons and mice.
Serves you right for teasing. (joking)
I'm so glad Mono. I'm feeling a little "out of place", but being patient.
No need to feel out of place...transitions and connections are occurring. Patience is the key
It scares me a lot to wonder how on earth all this could unfold into something where everyone will be happy.
Success and Happiness? I'm feeling so lucky at how patient, open, welcoming and accepting you're all being towards me while I sit here stunned, blinking in the headlights. LOL!
You're talking to the uber mono guy. Imagine how I felt LOL!
If there is anything I am sure of it is that Redpepper, Polynerdist and I are happy in how things for us have been unfolding. I never thought it could be this good, but it is.
I'm so glad Mono. I'm feeling a little "out of place", but being patient.
I can imagine! You clearly really love RP to go through the intensity and come out the other side so well-integrated.
Last night we went to a birthday party for two of our friends. When I say "we" I mean, Redpepper, Polynerdist, Derbylicious, Rolypoly and myself. The only two people missing from our lives were Redpepper's other love (tersiary just doesn't say enough) and Polynerdist's "boyfriend" for lack of a word that is more fitting.
I don't like the word tribes (it sounds primitive to me..no offence) but it came into my mind as I thought about us all together. Five people all with connections and harmonious caring that form a web. There are four pairings in this web that were present. Each have their own uniqueness and autonomy but each also affect the other. There is no "well that's their thing". Yes we recognize the autonomy of the connections but we also understand, feel and care about the threads that connect us all.
There was five smiling faces at the beginning of the night and five smiling faces at the end of the night. There was no drama or awkwardness, no worries about how much time to spend with each partner (I guess anyways
). There was fun and sharing. There was a natural flow to everyone that I think gets it's strength from the individuality of each person. Our lives are enriched by the connections that have been created. They add layers of depth as we work through the issues of not just our autonomous pairings, but also the issues of those who are our partner's partners.
"Compersion" is the word that best sums up the flow of our connections. I sense it from all of us...it truly is a calming and fulfilling way to feel.