Morningglory629
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Well he didn't get that way on his own, ya know. Good parenting! Children really should be one's opus. The time and effort and tears are all well worth it! The payoff is better than ANY piece of art/work! Good job, mama!
Very true. Thanks for that. I appreciate your friendship in that way, for sure.Hi RP,
Well, for what I am worth, you can always talk to me. You know, I tell it like I see it too.
He is not able or willing to fill a lot of my needs.
Yes, exactly! This is my point.Hmm, isn't that the beauty of polyamory, though? One person doesn't necessarily have to fill many needs when there are other partners who can.
Unless you mean Leo can't fulfill what you would need from him?
Maybe it's best not to try and bring hope to others, but rather to be brutally honest that everything isn't peaches and roses and there are very real issues that can come up, that people going into a mono/poly relationship should be aware of.
Sigh... I've just been triggered by a thread. Its been a long time since I have had that happen. I am feeling weepy, angry, frustrated all over again about the mono/poly issue.
What the hell am I going to do two workshops about this summer? I have no idea how to compose a workshop that brings some kind of hope to others on the mono/poly front. First things first. Get through the emotions. These things come together when emotions are not present.
I guess I just want to be there and ready to facilitate with more confidence. It's months away, however, and I don't think I will be where I am today when I get to that point. Not to mention the amount of processing that happens when actually putting a workshop together. TONS happens. I remember when I got the sexual boundaries art therapy workshop ready. It moved me to a different place. I feel very confident in that one and won't have any trouble facilitating that one now.I think we generate undue pressure on ourselves when doing workshops because we expect to represent a "mono/poly success". I think a mono/poly success would be where everyone is fulfilled and there is no sense of sacrifice (sacrifice being much more noticeable and constant than compromise). That's not us..we sacrifice. So although we might not be a poly success, we have a lot of lessons learned to share and have an intimate knowledge of issues that can and will come up. We're sharing our experience...not a guide to success.
I think a mono/poly success would be where everyone is fulfilled and there is no sense of sacrifice (sacrifice being much more noticeable and constant than compromise). That's not us. We sacrifice.
Is the sacrifice worth it to YOU? .
Is the sacrifice worth it to YOU? That is the only question that really matters and only you can answer that. I deam a success as actually actively living it, struggles and all. Sometimes compromises can be reached and other times it will require a sacrifice. My experience has been that even what we consider a sacrifice can change over time and circumstances.
RP you will do great. You can offer some insight and compassion to others in similar situations, that you may not have had a year ago or even a few months ago.
I think that often in poly communities we expect that success equals happiness and comfort for all. I struggle sometimes with the fact that success does not equate that at all... success is irrelevant really. I am just willing to put together some thoughts for a workshop and present them.. along with some conversation and questions from others... really, I am not more or less successful than anyone else.