marksbabygirl
Member
I've been thinking about this a lot lately.
We walked into this totally blindfolded (amazing how you can think you're open, only to discover you still had blinders on) without having discussions about what poly means to us, what we want, and where we want to go.
So when he found someone... it threw me. And through much conversation, tears, stress and anxiety... we've almost come out of this with some clarity.
We have had many discussions (and many more to come) about where we want to be right *now* with this. I recognize that relationships are fluid and changing and that my needs/wants/desires/restrictions/rules may change as well as everyone else's... and we will continue to have those conversations that will adjust us and how we relate to each other.
So when you started your poly journey - how did it all start? How did you get to the point of knowing what worked for you and where you wanted to go? Was it an easy process?
We walked into this totally blindfolded (amazing how you can think you're open, only to discover you still had blinders on) without having discussions about what poly means to us, what we want, and where we want to go.
So when he found someone... it threw me. And through much conversation, tears, stress and anxiety... we've almost come out of this with some clarity.
We have had many discussions (and many more to come) about where we want to be right *now* with this. I recognize that relationships are fluid and changing and that my needs/wants/desires/restrictions/rules may change as well as everyone else's... and we will continue to have those conversations that will adjust us and how we relate to each other.
So when you started your poly journey - how did it all start? How did you get to the point of knowing what worked for you and where you wanted to go? Was it an easy process?