M and I had a really good time together both Wednesday and Thursday. Wednesday he basically hung out at my house and painted some WarMachine models while I was teaching my daughter Algebra 2 and went over some essays she had written. (I homeschool.) We had some snuggle time on the loveseat and went to trivia that night and played as a two-pack and lost in a spectacular fashion.
Sex was wonderful, as always. He finally put it in my pooper, which I love, but my husband isn't into it, so it had been 6 years or so for me. I was nervous about it, but I encouraged him and it went awesome.
Oh! I started my period that night, so I decided to use my diaphragm as a catch-all, as suggested. It worked awesome and I kept it in all night. That morning it was totally fucking gross. Seriously - Black brown clots and I had to clean it. BLECH. Never again! lmao
Thursday we spent the day together playing WarMachine at the hobby shop. It was strange to have Thursday with him, because normally I teach a science class at a co-op and then a Chemistry class in the evening. For this week and next, I have the entire day free though. Also, Thursday night is date night for M and H, so I have never scheduled anything on those nights with M - they are as important to H as Wednesday nights are to me!
That said, M made a comment the other day about how he and H were arguing and she brought up about how he gave up one Thursday for me. This was the first time he came to my house - it was for a Star Wars trivial pursuit game that I had scheduled before I even met him, and several people were attending. I reminded him of that fact, and he said yeah, he knows, but she brought it up because she was frustrated. I find that kind of shitty.
Also, when we were snuggling on the loveseat on Wednesday afternoon, he was checking his emails with me in his lap, and he was reading some of them to me - spam and the like. There was one that was a message from H that he didn't mean for me to see, and didn't realize what it was. I only glanced at it, and saw that the first line said something like, "when you were off playing sweet family with Bluebird..."
Ugh. I asked him about it immediately, of course, and he flipped off of it super fast and was extremely evasive. I didn't ask to read the rest, because I don't want to feel terrible. He said that it was a message she wrote on Tuesday because she was having a bad day and had come home to find the dishes not done. Why weren't they finished? Because he was out with me unexpectedly. He said he told her that it didn't matter that he was with me, that he wouldn't have done them anyway, because he was painting his miniatures nonstop.
The more that M talks about it, I really think H is struggling with his version of poly with me. I know she had issues about us being polyfi and not using condoms, and she was "concerned" with how quickly and how strongly M loved me. M says she is going to a play party tonight, so hopefully she will be able to work through some of her issues with her friends in that scene. I think that it is normal that when they argue now, they make it about me. I find that very worrisome. M says that it isn't a problem, that we are strong. So, ok.
On Thursday at the hobby shop, C showed up later in the evening. By that point, M was playing against someone else in his league, so I had time to chat a bit with C. I made a point to go say hi and say a couple of things to him, but someone came over and started talking to him, so I retreated and started sorting cards at my station, and then watch M's game. All of a sudden, C was at my arm, and he talked for a good 20 minutes about his new game, and answered some personal questions while we chatted about his military career. Then he went over my card lists, and helped me pick some good jacks.
After that, we split apart and both went about, watching other games, chatting with others, etc. From time to time, he would call me over to point out something, and I would go over and see what he was looking at. Overall, it was a very friendly interaction. I wouldn't say any of it was romantic or suggestive, though we did both make sexual jokes at a couple points. So, I dunno. He could just be a friendly guy trying to make me feel comfortable, or he could be feeling me out.
I messaged him this morning to see if he could meet me at the hobby shop on Sunday to practice my new list and he was very amiable to that idea. He also suggested that he could bring a mirror of my list to play against me, so I could see how someone else would play it. Very helpful! M may come on Sunday too, but he hasn't talked to H yet and he is very uncertain of his schedule - he knew I was going to ask C to come play since he was iffy on being able to go, and is cool with it.
Honestly, I am really liking C - he is a very friendly and intelligent person. However, unless he shows some initiative and stops flirting and gets serious, things aren't going to progress. I enjoy my time with him and he's a good friend so far, but I am not going to be the aggressor in the relationship because of all the reasons I've listed previously. I like him, but there are a lot of reasons why dating him isn't ideal.