MsEmotional
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For the second time now, Whiskers has had to reschedule on me. The first time he told me about 5 days in advance and apologized that he forgot he had theater tickets with a friend. The second time was for tomorrow and we had daytime plans for some time when we would both be able to be free from work — and then a meeting got scheduled last-minute and now he can’t make it.
Both times, I had made plans accordingly taking into account these dates when planning time with others. And then when he cancelled I wasn’t sure what to do — should I try to see if Ponytail wants to hang out now that I am unexpectedly available? Is that weird? Like I am giving Ponytail “leftover Whiskers dates”? It feels weird to just sit at home when I’d love to see Ponytail with the additional time, but it also feels weirdly disrespectful to ask someone out for a time when you were originally scheduled to be with someone else....
Am I overthinking this?
ETA: I should add that Ponytail knew about my plans with Whiskers both times. It had come up when I was making plans with Ponytail — he suggested these times and I said, “I have plans with Whiskers then, but I could do ____ I if that works for you?” So an impromptu date proposal to Ponytail would come with the explanation that my date with Whiskers had been rescheduled.
Both times, I had made plans accordingly taking into account these dates when planning time with others. And then when he cancelled I wasn’t sure what to do — should I try to see if Ponytail wants to hang out now that I am unexpectedly available? Is that weird? Like I am giving Ponytail “leftover Whiskers dates”? It feels weird to just sit at home when I’d love to see Ponytail with the additional time, but it also feels weirdly disrespectful to ask someone out for a time when you were originally scheduled to be with someone else....
Am I overthinking this?
ETA: I should add that Ponytail knew about my plans with Whiskers both times. It had come up when I was making plans with Ponytail — he suggested these times and I said, “I have plans with Whiskers then, but I could do ____ I if that works for you?” So an impromptu date proposal to Ponytail would come with the explanation that my date with Whiskers had been rescheduled.
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