FloorChicken
New member
Hi, GalaGirl.
Thank you for responding. He said if we DID do a separation, he'd want it for a year, but I was the one who was kind of nervous of separating for that long.
He definitely wants to have someone on the side and continue to enjoy our relationship as it has been. He told me he doesn't want the me I've been in these last few weeks where I've been upset and crying. He wants the me I used to before all this and he wants the old me if he ends up sleeping with other women. Whereas I feel that I need to distance myself emotionally somewhat to protect myself from the heartache I'm currently feeling and will undoubtedly feel if he does this.
There has been tremendous upheaval for me. I know that he brought this stuff up in the past, but he always made it seem like it was something he could deal with because his relationship with me was more important. I've read books on evolution and human nature and I've accepted that men are likely programmed to want to spread their seed. I want to eat fries all the time because we're programmed to want to eat as much fat and sugar as we can, but I fight against that because that drive isn't good for us in our modern lives. I'm not saying his feelings aren't legitimate, but it's more that he made it seem like it was just something he had and could continue to deal with.
Thank you for responding. He said if we DID do a separation, he'd want it for a year, but I was the one who was kind of nervous of separating for that long.
He definitely wants to have someone on the side and continue to enjoy our relationship as it has been. He told me he doesn't want the me I've been in these last few weeks where I've been upset and crying. He wants the me I used to before all this and he wants the old me if he ends up sleeping with other women. Whereas I feel that I need to distance myself emotionally somewhat to protect myself from the heartache I'm currently feeling and will undoubtedly feel if he does this.
There has been tremendous upheaval for me. I know that he brought this stuff up in the past, but he always made it seem like it was something he could deal with because his relationship with me was more important. I've read books on evolution and human nature and I've accepted that men are likely programmed to want to spread their seed. I want to eat fries all the time because we're programmed to want to eat as much fat and sugar as we can, but I fight against that because that drive isn't good for us in our modern lives. I'm not saying his feelings aren't legitimate, but it's more that he made it seem like it was just something he had and could continue to deal with.