Hello, my first time posting here!
My husband and I have been discussing the concept of poly for about 2 years now. In that time I’ve had a couple of casual lovers and we have discussed all our emotions at length each time.
I feel like we’ve been very open and patient with each other and so far things have been going well.
The situation now is that I have met someone who wants something more serious, and he is mono too, so it would be a vee situation. While I am very excited about the possibilities, I also feel like shit just got real! The casual relationships were with guys already in primary relationships which felt like a more relaxed way to ease into things, they didn’t want anything too serious.
My husband and I have spent a lot of time going over the possibilities and how we feel about it. He’s open to the possibilities and gets along well with my other partner. We’ve read about and talked about how it will be a new relationship and can’t just be us plus a disposable other.
Naturally we’re all nervous but ready.
Now, my question.....how can I let my husband know how much I love him and that my feelings for him are even more intense than ever.
In theory he’s ok with everything, but says he has moments of worrying I’m planning to run off, or that I don’t love him enough. He says that feeling diminishes after we talk about it but it crushes me to know he feels that way.
I would even consider abandoning the whole idea if he keeps having feelings like that. It breaks my heart because I love him so much.
Any advice? Or links to experiences of people in his situation?
Thanks so much in advance.
Hope this made sense!
My husband and I have been discussing the concept of poly for about 2 years now. In that time I’ve had a couple of casual lovers and we have discussed all our emotions at length each time.
I feel like we’ve been very open and patient with each other and so far things have been going well.
The situation now is that I have met someone who wants something more serious, and he is mono too, so it would be a vee situation. While I am very excited about the possibilities, I also feel like shit just got real! The casual relationships were with guys already in primary relationships which felt like a more relaxed way to ease into things, they didn’t want anything too serious.
My husband and I have spent a lot of time going over the possibilities and how we feel about it. He’s open to the possibilities and gets along well with my other partner. We’ve read about and talked about how it will be a new relationship and can’t just be us plus a disposable other.
Naturally we’re all nervous but ready.
Now, my question.....how can I let my husband know how much I love him and that my feelings for him are even more intense than ever.
In theory he’s ok with everything, but says he has moments of worrying I’m planning to run off, or that I don’t love him enough. He says that feeling diminishes after we talk about it but it crushes me to know he feels that way.
I would even consider abandoning the whole idea if he keeps having feelings like that. It breaks my heart because I love him so much.
Any advice? Or links to experiences of people in his situation?
Thanks so much in advance.
Hope this made sense!