MermaidINmyMIND
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. . . . . . . . . . your relatively new Poly Lover sometimes seems to show some difficulties with open-ness that put you in mind of your previous "Dody "Monogomy but absolutely, definetly NON-poly" previous Lovers?
. . . . . . . . . . your relatively new Poly Lover sometimes seems to show some difficulties with open-ness that put you in mind of your previous "Dody "Monogomy but absolutely, definetly NON-poly" previous Lovers?
There's a tag here for "dodgy monogamy", so I think that's what she was trying to say: what if the new partner is reminding him/her/us of prior partners who weren't good at monogamy but didn't embrace polyamory. But maybe I'm inferring meaning that wasn't there.
OP, whether you are seeking advice or just posing the topic for discussion, it would be great to put some more flesh on this topic.
- What is "dodgy monogamy" in this context?
- What specific behaviors/words are bothering you/the hypothetical us?
- Have you/we and the current partner explicitly agreed to polyamory?
- Have you/we talked about what polyamory means to each of you/us, and shared your/our boundaries and limits?
However, it would also be a good idea to examine why you tend to seek out partners with similar traits that you dislike.