Bluebird
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My boyfriend M and I have not been able to have penetrative sex yet, since we are still awaiting his STD test results. He should be good to go soon, so we are having an overnight on Friday. (Yay! Can't wait.) We have had a lot of discussions surrounding birth control, and I am still wondering if we are leaving out any options.
Some background:
I had a lot of bad issues with hormone-based BC pills as a teenager. My ex and I used condoms until we were trying to conceive, at which point we discovered I had a short luteal phase and would need meds to support early pregnancy, and that he was actually completely sterile due to a genetic disorder. So, we stopped all condom use at that point.
With my husband, we tried to conceive early in our relationship, failed at that, and testing showed he was fine. Apparently something else is blocking a baby, because we've used no protection for 8 years. My short luteal phase came up again, but I hadn't ever been pregnant for it to be an issue.
So, in with M. He currently uses no protection with his wife, because she is unable to have any more children. He has said he is willing to use condoms with me, but he has a very difficult time maintaining an erection. So, condoms could get expensive.
I have an appointment for an IUD consult next week, but that apparently can take a month to schedule to have put in.
We are going to see how things go with condoms, but I am not optimistic, given M's past issues.
My question is, since I am loathe to take any type of hormone based BC, what other types of BC should we be looking at? Is there something else I could use, easily & quickly, in the time before I get the IUD?
I am also interested in hearing about condom use with guys that have difficulties. This is new to me! Any ideas how to better manage this?
We have discussed using the withdrawal method, which in our case may be the way to go, since he has difficulty achieving orgasm anyway, and in most cases wouldn't be inside me when finishing. Combining that with my Pre-existing fertility issues, I don't feel like it'd be a huge risk, but it still makes me uncomfortable. A baby at my age (almost 36) is NOT what I want at all.
Right now my husband is mono, and M's wife is not expanding any of her relationships, so I feel safe going without any STD protection. M's wife may add new partners in the future - only M practicess polyfi - so at that point, I may have to go back to condoms anyway, to maintain that barrier. At the moment it isn't an issue.
Thanks for any information!
Some background:
I had a lot of bad issues with hormone-based BC pills as a teenager. My ex and I used condoms until we were trying to conceive, at which point we discovered I had a short luteal phase and would need meds to support early pregnancy, and that he was actually completely sterile due to a genetic disorder. So, we stopped all condom use at that point.
With my husband, we tried to conceive early in our relationship, failed at that, and testing showed he was fine. Apparently something else is blocking a baby, because we've used no protection for 8 years. My short luteal phase came up again, but I hadn't ever been pregnant for it to be an issue.
So, in with M. He currently uses no protection with his wife, because she is unable to have any more children. He has said he is willing to use condoms with me, but he has a very difficult time maintaining an erection. So, condoms could get expensive.
I have an appointment for an IUD consult next week, but that apparently can take a month to schedule to have put in.
We are going to see how things go with condoms, but I am not optimistic, given M's past issues.
My question is, since I am loathe to take any type of hormone based BC, what other types of BC should we be looking at? Is there something else I could use, easily & quickly, in the time before I get the IUD?
I am also interested in hearing about condom use with guys that have difficulties. This is new to me! Any ideas how to better manage this?
We have discussed using the withdrawal method, which in our case may be the way to go, since he has difficulty achieving orgasm anyway, and in most cases wouldn't be inside me when finishing. Combining that with my Pre-existing fertility issues, I don't feel like it'd be a huge risk, but it still makes me uncomfortable. A baby at my age (almost 36) is NOT what I want at all.
Right now my husband is mono, and M's wife is not expanding any of her relationships, so I feel safe going without any STD protection. M's wife may add new partners in the future - only M practicess polyfi - so at that point, I may have to go back to condoms anyway, to maintain that barrier. At the moment it isn't an issue.
Thanks for any information!