LovingRadiance
Active member
The biggest issue I see with message boards such as this is that people inevitably pop on here looking for advice.
BUT-advice is best given by someone who is able to STAY THE HELL OUT OF THE MIDDLE of your dynamic.
There is a reason why counselors are told not to COUNSEL family or loved ones. It's also best not to "counsel" someone who is having a problem that you yourself are struggling through at the moment-because you are less likely to be able to remain neutral.
So people come on here asking for and looking for 3rd party advice.
But what they get is time-bombs from other people who are also struggling through similar problems. Then they use that advice and they find that it blows up in their faces.
The reason is that counseling someone takes a lot of effort. Very few people grow up to become counselors and of those that do-quite a few SUCK.
When you ask for advice-take time to ensure that the people you listen to are ACTUALLY NEUTRAL.
Taking advice from someone who has an agenda or see's one side more strongly than another is just asking for a time bomb to go off in your life.
BUT-advice is best given by someone who is able to STAY THE HELL OUT OF THE MIDDLE of your dynamic.
There is a reason why counselors are told not to COUNSEL family or loved ones. It's also best not to "counsel" someone who is having a problem that you yourself are struggling through at the moment-because you are less likely to be able to remain neutral.
So people come on here asking for and looking for 3rd party advice.
But what they get is time-bombs from other people who are also struggling through similar problems. Then they use that advice and they find that it blows up in their faces.
The reason is that counseling someone takes a lot of effort. Very few people grow up to become counselors and of those that do-quite a few SUCK.
When you ask for advice-take time to ensure that the people you listen to are ACTUALLY NEUTRAL.
Taking advice from someone who has an agenda or see's one side more strongly than another is just asking for a time bomb to go off in your life.
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