Hello everyone I am new here, and I have found myself in a situation I don't know quite what to do with. I am hoping people with some experience can help me out
My husband (G) and I have been married for 8ish years. About 8 months ago, I finally got him to admit to affairs he had after catching him in many lies. He said he felt he got married too young and missed out on all the 'fun' so he desperately needed an open marriage. I was honest and told I didn't know if I could handle it. But I decided to give it a try. He went out on one date and I knew I couldn't handle it. Told him and he agreed to stop.
Fast forward to now. I thought things had been going pretty good. We were getting along better and things seemed happy. Well then last week he decides to tell me that I can't fulfill all his needs and desires and he NEEDS an open marriage. After fighting almost a week, I put my foot down and said no. I did the one thing I swore I wouldn't do, I gave him an ultimatum, me or other women. He said he refuses to leave me, but he isn't going to stop what he is doing. That I can either suck it up and enjoy this new life of his with him or I can leave.
Now here is where the problem comes in. I actually want to try. The thought of my husband being with another person both excites me and terrifies me. I am not sure I am mentally able to get past the jealousy aspect of everything. How do you do that? How do you even begin to adventure into this life when it is completely different than anything you have even been around?
Now if you read all that, I tip my hat to you and you deserve a chocolate chip cookie. Thanks in advance for any advice
My husband (G) and I have been married for 8ish years. About 8 months ago, I finally got him to admit to affairs he had after catching him in many lies. He said he felt he got married too young and missed out on all the 'fun' so he desperately needed an open marriage. I was honest and told I didn't know if I could handle it. But I decided to give it a try. He went out on one date and I knew I couldn't handle it. Told him and he agreed to stop.
Fast forward to now. I thought things had been going pretty good. We were getting along better and things seemed happy. Well then last week he decides to tell me that I can't fulfill all his needs and desires and he NEEDS an open marriage. After fighting almost a week, I put my foot down and said no. I did the one thing I swore I wouldn't do, I gave him an ultimatum, me or other women. He said he refuses to leave me, but he isn't going to stop what he is doing. That I can either suck it up and enjoy this new life of his with him or I can leave.
Now here is where the problem comes in. I actually want to try. The thought of my husband being with another person both excites me and terrifies me. I am not sure I am mentally able to get past the jealousy aspect of everything. How do you do that? How do you even begin to adventure into this life when it is completely different than anything you have even been around?
Now if you read all that, I tip my hat to you and you deserve a chocolate chip cookie. Thanks in advance for any advice