Hey there !
I feel like polyamory, not necessarily sexual, can be effective in healing childhood issues, at least for me. I have sadness in me because I didn't get enough love, so I'm in a Love Quest !
I'm in a monogamous relationship though, but some progress has been made. My wife agreed in inviting Cam, my ex-girlfriend, to hang out with us, and I was very happy to see that my wife also started to develop a close friendship with Cam. However, my wife becomes insecure/jealous too easily, so she restrains me, which turns out as a barrier for me to release my repressed feelings. My dream scenario is to sleep with both of them together, not for sex but for love. Though in reality I can hardly talk privately with Cam or hug her without distressing my wife.
Now I'm thinking how to get around it. Should I just restrain myself and focus in making their relationship stronger so that my wife can build a trust before I can have any closeness or intimacy with Cam?
Some background:
Me and Cam are just friends but we had an open relationship in the past, for a few months, while my wife was living apart. My wife knew everything and still slept occasionally with me but did never consent my relationship with Cam. Things turned a couple of months ago when I explained to my wife, from my heart, that Cam also has childhood issues which are similar to mine and that healing Cam would help me to heal myself.
I feel like polyamory, not necessarily sexual, can be effective in healing childhood issues, at least for me. I have sadness in me because I didn't get enough love, so I'm in a Love Quest !
I'm in a monogamous relationship though, but some progress has been made. My wife agreed in inviting Cam, my ex-girlfriend, to hang out with us, and I was very happy to see that my wife also started to develop a close friendship with Cam. However, my wife becomes insecure/jealous too easily, so she restrains me, which turns out as a barrier for me to release my repressed feelings. My dream scenario is to sleep with both of them together, not for sex but for love. Though in reality I can hardly talk privately with Cam or hug her without distressing my wife.
Now I'm thinking how to get around it. Should I just restrain myself and focus in making their relationship stronger so that my wife can build a trust before I can have any closeness or intimacy with Cam?
Some background:
Me and Cam are just friends but we had an open relationship in the past, for a few months, while my wife was living apart. My wife knew everything and still slept occasionally with me but did never consent my relationship with Cam. Things turned a couple of months ago when I explained to my wife, from my heart, that Cam also has childhood issues which are similar to mine and that healing Cam would help me to heal myself.