What are the pros and cons of both a polyamorous and monogamous relationship?
They have these things called "paternity tests" where you compare the blood type and/or DNA of your kid and you and all the guys you fucked during that ovulation cycle, and it will tell you which one got you knocked up.
This not-knowing-who-the-babby-daddy-is can happen to monogamous people too, by the way.
I have a child. I am a single parent. I'm also one of the seemingly rare females who would take the guys point of view into consideration when deciding whether to continue a pregnancy or not. Generally, my basis for assessing who would be a good Co parent has little to do with the prognosis of our romantic relationship, it's about whether I think we could successfully Co parent a child.Maybe you should consider being sterilised London? Or put off being non-monogamous until after menopause? Or maybe only sleep with men you don't mind blending genes with?
Since accidental pregnancy by the 'right' person is so important to you?
I know single parenthood isn't for everyone but if your only criteria for continuing a pregnancy is 'which man did the deed' you might end up making some pretty big mistakes.
having more people around to love you and stuff is very desirable.
I use both hormonal and barrier contraception so the chances of me getting pregnant are slim. I also wouldn't fluid bond with anyone that I know I would hate to have a baby with, or definitely didn't want children but was still able to.
What are the pros and cons of both a polyamorous and monogamous relationship?