WanderingINTJ
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I'm Sorry
Essentially is the feeling I'm having today for choosing to end my marriage.
Had a meeting with my husband and a lawyer. The primary dispute we keep having is joint physical custody of my daughter. Lawyer was explaning pros and cons of all of it. Near the end of the meeting my husband got dirty and states well our marriage wouldn't be ending if she didn't want and open marriage and proceeds to say "and she claims to be asexual but wants to pursue polyamory." Continues with, I didn't want to air her dirty laundry, but I felt I had to say it to get what I want. Of course that causes the lawyer to say how he'll have to add clauses to our settlement stating that no romantic interests around the child and if we were to go to court, the judges would look at my interest as a moral deficit. Yes, I'm hurt, perplexed, blindsided and feeling sorry for choosing to end my marriage and move on. I'm sleeping on the couch and am ready to move out and be in my own space. But can't move too quickly or else abandonment can be used against me. Just expressing myself. Oh yeah, feeling lonely too. Not hugely interested in a full on relationship, but do wish I had someone to regularly hang out with, hug.
Essentially is the feeling I'm having today for choosing to end my marriage.
Had a meeting with my husband and a lawyer. The primary dispute we keep having is joint physical custody of my daughter. Lawyer was explaning pros and cons of all of it. Near the end of the meeting my husband got dirty and states well our marriage wouldn't be ending if she didn't want and open marriage and proceeds to say "and she claims to be asexual but wants to pursue polyamory." Continues with, I didn't want to air her dirty laundry, but I felt I had to say it to get what I want. Of course that causes the lawyer to say how he'll have to add clauses to our settlement stating that no romantic interests around the child and if we were to go to court, the judges would look at my interest as a moral deficit. Yes, I'm hurt, perplexed, blindsided and feeling sorry for choosing to end my marriage and move on. I'm sleeping on the couch and am ready to move out and be in my own space. But can't move too quickly or else abandonment can be used against me. Just expressing myself. Oh yeah, feeling lonely too. Not hugely interested in a full on relationship, but do wish I had someone to regularly hang out with, hug.