I've been interested in poly for ~8 years and I finally found someone who actually is poly. On top of that she is super big into nerdy/dorky stuff which I love. Bla bla bla... long story short we are currently dating.
I don't have any pressing issues I just wanted to know if you guys have any pointers for someone who has read a lot of poly material but hasn't experienced any of it.
I'll give you guys a quick summary of where we are:
Approximately a month into this relationship and I feel nothing but warmth for her and her existing partner (we are currently a 'V'). He and I are actually pretty similar in a lot of ways (very logical, both comptuer programmers, both dorks, etc.) and we get along splendidly. I don't feel jealousy towards him but I am a tincy bit jealous about their living situation. They have been living together for a year now and I don't get to see her that often because she lives 45 minutes away. I realize that there isn't really anything that can be done about their living situation so it is something I just have to accept. Maybe at some point if things go well enough we can talk about a more complex living arrangement.
We've had a few misunderstandings about casual sex that I need to clarify at some point. But for right now we are basically a closed group. I am actually ok with casual sex but my partner and her bf are against it because they want to spend their energy on long term commitments. This is a little frustrating because I see her 1-2 times a week but it is a worthwhile sacrifice.
I don't have any pressing issues I just wanted to know if you guys have any pointers for someone who has read a lot of poly material but hasn't experienced any of it.
I'll give you guys a quick summary of where we are:
Approximately a month into this relationship and I feel nothing but warmth for her and her existing partner (we are currently a 'V'). He and I are actually pretty similar in a lot of ways (very logical, both comptuer programmers, both dorks, etc.) and we get along splendidly. I don't feel jealousy towards him but I am a tincy bit jealous about their living situation. They have been living together for a year now and I don't get to see her that often because she lives 45 minutes away. I realize that there isn't really anything that can be done about their living situation so it is something I just have to accept. Maybe at some point if things go well enough we can talk about a more complex living arrangement.
We've had a few misunderstandings about casual sex that I need to clarify at some point. But for right now we are basically a closed group. I am actually ok with casual sex but my partner and her bf are against it because they want to spend their energy on long term commitments. This is a little frustrating because I see her 1-2 times a week but it is a worthwhile sacrifice.