LuvNWonder
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For us swinging turned out to be a means to an end (although at the time we had only the faintest concept of that being the case).
It was our entry to non-monogamy and served as a way for luv to see that god wasn't going to strike her dead instantly, and that I wasn't watching with eagle eyes to rip off my ring and demand divorce the instant she was penetrated by another man, nor by the fact that she really enjoyed it.
Along the way we learned that sex with friends was the best, with good friends even better, and with people who could share our lives on an intimate and caring level even when sex wasn't involved was as *amazing*.
While there are a few situations that could convince us to swing now and then (hey, if Dwayne Johnson called either or both of us for a long no strings attached weekend? Yeah.) We are only interested in sex with friends and only after we trust that they *are* friends.
So anyway, for us it was great fun and a learning process but just a gateway drug. And if you ever want to gently but abruptly extricate yourselves from the swinger community just announce that you are poly and bi (if a guy, put that down if you're a woman and you'll never get rid of 'em).
Brian
It was our entry to non-monogamy and served as a way for luv to see that god wasn't going to strike her dead instantly, and that I wasn't watching with eagle eyes to rip off my ring and demand divorce the instant she was penetrated by another man, nor by the fact that she really enjoyed it.
Along the way we learned that sex with friends was the best, with good friends even better, and with people who could share our lives on an intimate and caring level even when sex wasn't involved was as *amazing*.
While there are a few situations that could convince us to swing now and then (hey, if Dwayne Johnson called either or both of us for a long no strings attached weekend? Yeah.) We are only interested in sex with friends and only after we trust that they *are* friends.
So anyway, for us it was great fun and a learning process but just a gateway drug. And if you ever want to gently but abruptly extricate yourselves from the swinger community just announce that you are poly and bi (if a guy, put that down if you're a woman and you'll never get rid of 'em).
Brian